Is it normal to be indifferent about your friends' feelings?

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I've been friends with this girl for a long time. She's great and really really kind. I like hanging out with her and my friends do too.

She is lesbian and she has a relationship with one of my best girl friends. I don't have a problem with lesbians, or so I think. Recently, she and my best girl friend broke up. They don't seem to mind it much, and we still hang out a lot so their break up didn't impact our friendship at all.

And then yesterday, my lesbian friend texted me if it's possible that she and I could have a relationship. I rejected her right out, I didn't want her to expect anything from me. I told her that my recent break up was bad and I wasn't over my ex, which is true. But part of me just felt umm.. I dunno? repulsed?..

I'm so confused, I loved her as a friend. But now, I don't mind losing her just because she told me that she likes me. I feel disgusted for various reasons. It doesn't feel right to me that she wants to court me a month after she broke up with my girl friend. I don't feel good about our 10 year age difference. And the fact that she's lesbian bothers me. I don't think I could go out with anyone who isn't male.

She texts and calls me everyday now, and I feel indifferent about her feelings for me. She sounds hurt over the phone when she asked me what my reasons are for not liking her. I feel indifferent, I don't really care at all. I try to care but it just doesn't happen. I couldn't care less now if she doesn't hang out with me anymore or anything. I just feel so indifferent to her now. Is it normal to be like this? I'm a bad friend I know.. but I just can't help getting this feelings of disgust. :/

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  • heycheri
    13 years ago

    Tell her to fuck off and respect your feelings. There is no rule that says you need to reciprocate her feelings. She needs to give you your space. What a psycho!

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  • Vampyra
    10 years ago

    Well, if you don't like lesbians then stay away from her. Please don't discriminate-not all gay, lesbian, bi or trans people are "bad." I think you know that deep down inside. Straight people can be scumbags too..

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  • kdblueeyes
    13 years ago

    Just tell her you love her as a friend but that's it. You can not see yourself in a realtionship with a female. So it's not really her lacking something it's just a difference in views.

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