Is it normal to be in this situation? suggestions?

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ok this is gonna be long (i think) but im a 19 year old male latino with a bit of a predicament, there was this girl in high school i used to talk to for a bit looking back at it now she was throwing very obvious signs that she liked me (i liked her too) but i was probably to stupid or stoned to notice, i talked to her on facebook but i never had the balls to ask her out, i deleted my account because i find that you have no stories to tell your friends when you see them in person, its now been almost a year since ive even talked to her and have no way to talk to her, the last time i talked to her was at a party but when it came down to it i just got nervous and babbled on about stupid crap i couldnt even muster the courage to ask for her number (and yes to this day i feel like a bitch about that). ever since then i've been talking to more girls and started getting in shape and quit mary jane but ive never felt as nervous or the same as i have with that girl.

Does anyone have any suggestions as to what i should do? please dont bash me for my past, ive felt that ive grown past being a shy little bitch lol, thanks for the feedback, i appreciate it (even if its insulting.)

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    You know when you try too hard you fuck up?

    Well that is what was happening to you with this girl.

    You liked her and you needed to impress her so bad that you couldn't stop and think about what you wanted to say to her so you babble to her.

    I've seen this happen countless of times a seemingly confident guy who could get any girl he wanted but the one he truly wanted because he would just babble and couldn't ask her out over the fear of rejection.

    It's a total mind fuck but yeah it happens.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      so should i just stop trying to look for her? and just roll with life and see what happens? oh and i didnt want to impress her if it were any other girl i wouldnt be worried about rejection, and its not that im afraid of rejection its more like shes the only girl that has really ever made me nervous.

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      • Terence_the_viking
        11 years ago

        You could just write a letter take your time to say what you want to say then get someone else to give it to her.

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  • bigfatpoo
    11 years ago

    Perhaps send her a message on facebook that doesn't make sense... and then say you were meant to send it to someone else...

    that will get the ball rolling :D

    Good luck!

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    • pappusharma
      11 years ago

      Or i will suggest just meet her, girls actually like people who are bold enough to speak in person, not through message or social websites. Just gather courage, check whether she goes to a grocery store or a book store. Follow her and go meet her as an accidental meet, get surprised that OMG!!! you, such long time. Then speak something good enough, ask how is she, how is her life going on. If possible ask her out for a coffee the very same moment. Ask her,"Hey are you busy at this moment? maybe we can have a cup of coffee and chat." Girls like this. Be a man and buy a coffee for her. Talk with her. Say sorry for getting disappeared after one stuff. Ask her whether she missed u or not. I mean don't ask her straight, just try to find it out indirectly. if u get a sign that she missed u, say sorry. This will pretty much get your ball rolling with top speed. She will be happy about u being so bold and manly.. If you really like her drop your shyness..

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    You sound like a really nice guy. I hope you find the courage to contact her.
    Good luck!

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  • cmeatthetop
    11 years ago

    Get a new Facebook, check it when relevant & keep up on social activities in ur area. Friend request her my friend, find a new bad boy hobby( no drugs involved) martial arts or football.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      preety good idea and ive been thinking of making a facebook again, and i have plenty of hobbies (no drugs involved).

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    thanks for your feedback, but first of all, im not shy around girls anymore!! second, i refuse to go back on facebook, so thats a big NO on the stalking lol. and finaly im kinda hoping to meet her by chance again, if it doesn't happen well then i'd probably consider facebook as an option.

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  • LogicLad
    11 years ago

    Go back to facebook. Check her likes and dislikes. Observe. Stalk her profile. Observe. Take note of what she is currently doing or where is she hanging around, (check-ins and all..)
    And then, build up a scenario which will include all of these and msg her 'Hi I have this problem... blah blah blah... suggestions?'
    She will reply something.
    Your next Task: To make her meet you and discuss about the solution of your problem.

    There you go. You have her meeting you. Dowsn't matter if she comes wid a friend. Every meet starts from one! ;)

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      You sound like a professional stalker/creeper weirdo.

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      • LogicLad
        11 years ago

        I'm a writer. One of my characters is a teen stalker. Done my homework. :P

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