Is it normal to be in this situation.? please comment.

My mom does coke. does alcohal and does cigettes and bitches every day. is it normal . i want your opinon . my sisters moving out my mom is crazy my dad not so much i dont know were to turn or what to do. i dont want them to go to jail i love them with all my heart. and it hurts to see cut straws and them just ; out of their right mind. their killing them selves...slowly. & its killing me. i cant consintrate in school i get almost straght f's i try to focus and think about the future. but i just cant do it i dont wanna turn out like them i can't live with anyone else. i feel like im in prison. i cant tell no one see no one about it. im stuck... i need advice. please comment. i need help im in ; hell. ;'(

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Comments ( 14 )
  • Sotchi

    Is there absolutely no way you can live somewhere else? Maybe with a friend or sister? There's nothing you can do in this situation but look out for yourself. They are in their addiction and are not going to stop until they are ready. The chances of them changing due to something someone else says or does are slim unfortunately. You should absolutely talk to a counselor/therapist/someone you can confide in for your own peace of mind. It's a really hard situation and you shouldn't try to get through it alone. Also, there are Alanon or Alateen meetings where you can get help/support from others going through similar situations and that have experience in coping with it.

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  • JR(562)

    U sound like someone I know but I just told her to do ur best to maintain and tell them something

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  • 8Serene8

    It's not normal for her to use heavy drugs, and it's not normal for her to drink all the time.

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  • jensapa

    They won't go to jail. U HAVE to talk to some one. They need help and u need support. U r not alone. There are services out there to assist your family to try and get more healthy.

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  • wreckd

    A half sister of mine is in the same situation with her mother. She is very young and doesn't realize the severity of her situation.

    I know you love your family and that is why I believe you SHOULD talk to someone about this. No one, especially with a child, should ever find themselves in that situation.

    You sound young so maybe you can go to your school's Guidance Counselor about this. You don't deserve to be in a situation like this and it WILL affect your future.

    Good luck and I hope your family gets the help they need to be better, healthier parents.

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  • gako

    Omg*hugs* .. i feel very sorry for you. The only advice i can give you is. Hang in there and don't give up. Instead of loooking at your family and worrying abt "becoming" like that. Look at them as a reminder of what you should not be. Stick w/ them until your old enough and smart enough to be on your own two feet and leave! Sounds like your the smartest of them all. Put yourself to good use. Goodluck<3

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  • Cookieboy

    No this is not normal and it is far from ideal.

    Get help for your parents immediately for your own sake.

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  • krisAllen

    I feel you, even though its never happened to me, honestly, I think you should help them by sending them to rehab or something. They can help!

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  • lilrebel80

    Call children's aid on your parents

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  • mbg25485

    This is not a normal situation to be in.
    Depending on which country you live in (I'm guessing USA), you honestly may need to legally get away from them for a while. They are doing illegal things and not being the parents they could be. You need to be able to live your life comfortably, and live to your full potential. If they get in trouble with the law, it's nothing but their fault. Living with a relative for a while, or maybe even a foster home (if it comes to that) is the best option. Your parents (or mother) has already starting hurting herself and her future; don't let her bad decisions dictate your future too.

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  • CountryRoads

    Jesus. This is terrible. No kid should have to be under this kind of pressure.

    Do you have any aunts or uncles you can stay with? Or stay with your sister? You need to get out of that house. It's not your responsibility to save your parents from making poor decisions.

    Just don't let this change who you'll become in the future. You DON'T have to be that way. Use it as an example of what NOT to do, and strive to avoid that way of life.

    It'll get better, girl. Stay tough.

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  • Uhhuhhim

    How old are u? That's a big question. You need to focus on school that's gonna help u get out of the house do u have close friends ? Can you spend time there. Work as much as you can save money. And friend a group that gets together to talk about how you feel. Don't let it get you down was there myself. Do u feel unsafe in the home?

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    • FreeLove123

      Im 13, i feel perfectly fine in my home,. i love them lots but it could effect my future, i had good grades but now since i know about more about waht this stuff is i absolutly know whats going on, she doent do coke everyday its here and there but her and my dad fight alot. and the econamy is bad and they are starting to not be able to aford things. we are minimum wage, but when my parents fight they wanna get a divorce but they both know they cant live on their own, im safe in my home but my care for them and trying to help them is getting harder to amend. but thank you everyone for the feed back it is some help that i can use,

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  • You have to think what do you want more for them to be alive and not like you or for them to be dead liking you.
    Go to the law after you find some place to stay because they will die and you could of done something to stop it.

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