Is it normal to be in this relationship?

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My boyfriend and i are madly in love! He has 11 years of sobriety and I gave up on having any recovery and went back to smoking pot. Can we still have a healthy relationship or is this too big of a difference? He doesn't seem to be judging me as bad, but I don't know if this is just too large of a difference in our lifestyles. I really love the effects that marijuana has on my mind and body so I don't want to give it up.

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Based on 34 votes (13 yes)
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  • JuliusE
    12 years ago

    Your going to either help him fuck up in the end or help him get to a stronger place in his recovery by helping him make the decision to dump your dumb ass.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    You should stay away from him coz you will drag him down again!

    Let him go if you really care for him - or give up smoking pot if you really love him.

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago

    unless he wants to relapse, then this will eventually be an issue in the relationship later on down he line

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  • dimecross7
    11 years ago

    IT'S marijuana OR YOU RELATIONSHIP IT'A UP TO YOU TO CHOOSE WHICH ONES MORE IMPORTRANT

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  • jondoerandom
    11 years ago

    Nope. I dated a pothead and it didn't work. As you said -the difference is too great. Like your boyfriend -I'm stone sober, no booze or any type of drugs. I love chemical substances but purely as a research and never take them myself.
    But.. every situation is unique in a way. Wish you good luck!

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  • darkwarning
    12 years ago

    If you truly love him you will support him. He obviously want to be sober, so you need to decide the best way to support him, and be happy yourself. You have two choices, quit or leave him. If you love him and are happy with him that should be enough motivation to get sober yourself.

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  • Chibi_Ranger
    12 years ago

    Seldom pot-smoking is okay, you know the "once every few days" kind of thing. But from the way you word it, are you taking it regularly?

    For one, you're a lucky lady he's so tolerant and patient. I'd show obvious repulse if my boyfriend smoked around me, knowing I've mild, but not inexistent breathing difficulties.

    Secondly. I'm not one to judge if you truly are "madly in love" or whatever. Definitely not going to say, "OH YA HE BE DUMPIN YO ASS SOON YO!" But, as repeatedly mentioned as this is, if you honestly give a shit about your guy, you'd support his healthy abstaining. You're only making it hard for him to stick to his "start anew" plan. My advice, really try hard to change for him to show your supportive spirit as a girlfriend.

    YOU CAN DO IT. It's just a matter of determination!

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  • WinstonTasteGood
    12 years ago

    If he's OK with you smoking reefer and drinking - even though he can't hang and knows it - then it may not be an issue. But if you get a sense that it's bothering him, it will become an issue (as AngAnders said in her post).

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