Is it normal to be in love without being needy?

Is it normal for someone to be in love with somebody else without acting needy and dependent on their relationship all the time? So far, I think not. But Ive only been in love once which is right now and I really dont want to fall in love again if me and him don't work. In fact, I dont think it's possible, or at least for me, to fall in love like this again. It is just such a overwhelming feeling. But any who, being in love so far includes me always being needy of something. I might come off like that cause he lacks a lot of effort most of the time cause of certain circumstances but it is also because of how I feel for him. If I wasn't in love with him, I wouldn't put up with anything and just call it off like no big deal. However, before this, I have always been a really chill, cool, calm and collected girl and I wish I can be that for my bf. I bet he would love that. But because of how I feel for him, I tend to act more controlling. I just wonder is it possible or normal to be in love and not be so controlling at the same time? If yeah, then okay I can start practicing to be more chill without risking losing him. Also, it will make me feel better about how he feels for me cause he is so calm and collected so I question does he even love me? Maybe he does but he knows how to control himself. If not, then I know it's normal for me to feel so dependent on our relationship and my feelings for him.