Is it normal to be in love with your friends ex?

ok i have this friend she is so funny i love her to death but her ex is one of my friends also,and i really like him and me and him share a lot of things like drinks and gum and stuff but i don't want to hurt her but i can't help how i feel about him and he is always there for me what do i do?

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  • we_rd

    Go for it.

    It's not like she's his girlfriend. You may want to talk to him before starting, just to iron out any problems, not to make him involved in the decision making. You make the decisions not him.

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  • Ernest

    Hmmm..

    What Gizzie said is right. Nothing should really come between you and following your heart, unless there are legitimate reasons.

    For example, if your friend is not over him, do NOT. Your feelings can wait. If she is over him, but she tells you not to anyway, ignore her. If she threatens to end the friendship, bluff her, and see if she really flicks you off.

    Its difficult, but more often than not, the friend will give the blessing.

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  • daydream

    I would suggest getting out of the house more interacting with a wider variety of people and maybe after some time you could see the equation a little more clearly... maybe you will see that your alliance to your friend is a bit more important than another man or per hasp%%u2019s not..

    But at least take the time to make a more informed choice ,okay.

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  • u better hurry up too long in the friend zone means no bone

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  • First u should tell ur friend, then I think u should f*ck him stupid ! ! !

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  • BillyJeanisnotmygirl

    if ur still in school, dont do nuthin. Reguardless of friends youll be known as the school peice of sh!t

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    • kgm1996

      well thats not the worst thing that has happened at are school so I am pretty safe

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  • realitychecks

    Well, I agree with Gizzy on talking to your friend before anything happens. On the other hand, I truely treasure my friendships. As far as I'm concerened, most ppl aren't worth the trouble. I have 5 genuine friends that mean the world to me. These are friends I can trust with my life and no man would come in between us. If my friend had a history with someone, I would probably avoid it at all costs because I love my g-friends, So, I guess I depends on what your friendship means compared to a guy who shares gum and a few drinks. Who will last longer in your life??

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  • you share gum? that's fucking gross.

    -dirt dobbler

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    • purplemyfavoritecolor_xD

      yes it is f**king gross

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    • kgm1996

      and yes I share gum with all my friends

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      • Solimorphic

        It's called ABC gum.

        Already Been Chewed!

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  • Forget his ex and take it to the next stage with him!!!! GO ON you KNOW you WANT to!!!

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  • Yes its normal. If you and him have a connection then have a go at it. Just because his relationship didn't work out with your friend doesn't make him off limits to you.

    I realize it puts you in an awkward predicament but you need to follow your feelings. Before you do anything discuss this with your girlfriend,be honest and tell her about your feeling for this guy. If she is a mature girl that is completely over him I'm sure she will give you her blessing.

    Its a hard decision but if she tells you stay away you may need to consider giving her up as a friend to follow your heart desire. If i were you i would give it some time and see what transpires before you do anything.

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    • Best advice. Talk it over with your friend - and be guided by that. You 2 sound pretty close. And let's face it - your relationship with her may last a whole lot longer - a lifetime even - than dating some guy for a while.

      Also - ignore the low life, gutter mouth comments.

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    • kgm1996

      well thanks I will take that into consideration

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