Is it normal to be in love with your best friend?

Is it normal to be in love with your best friend? We have been talking for a whole 2 years. When we first met I just felt like something clicked.Soon later we both learned that we liked each other. Anyways ever since then we haven't stopped talking to each other, even if we tried. It just doesn't work. Sure we have had our fights but one way or the other we make it through. We really hit it off when we are alone, but when people are around he just kind of forgets i'm there. I think that it's getting a bit old, but at the same time, I can't let him go.

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Based on 69 votes (63 yes)
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  • joeystyles

    sup my names joey...im really screwed cuz im in love with my best friend but the problem is that its a he. i've never felt this way about a guy before. he gives me all of his attention all the time and even sacrificed his other friendships to hang out with me. we watch movies alone everynight and he always tells me he misses me. i wanna tell him how i feel hoping that mayb we have mutual feelings but he is so homophobic and that scares me. i have givin him many hints wile "drunk" to see his reactions but all i get is sexy smiles. we touch eachother alot and are always close to eachother. if i move away he tells me im too far lol wtf. he tells me im so good looking this blows. hes literally the air i breathe and i cannot possibly destroy friendship if i confess my true feelings i need some advice please!

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    • Legion

      Man, that's tough, especially if he is homophobic as you say, sometimes, said homophobia is a knee-jerk fear and confusion reaction to their own gay desires and feelings. Often times they can be in the closet. This is especially apparent in closeted people who come from religious or other family units who would be (possibly) disapproving of that.

      Are there any other signs he might be gay, have you seen any gay porn on him?

      Maybe talk to him in private, see why he would think that.

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  • Legion

    Totally normal to be in love with your best friend, personally, I feel it would be better than to try to hook up with a stranger, after all, your close, you have a lot in common, you have lots of fun with them.

    Also, I've been there, I was best friends with this girl in high school, and we got close, to the point everyone was convinced we were a couple! Well, that didn't happen, even if I wanted to be. However, I was too nervous, I never told her. She ended up with another, and I was heartbroken. Lately, she has come back in my life, and the feelings are returning, but she doesn't want a relationship as she recently divorced her abusive husband.

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  • FionnaCakeFan

    It's okay! My sister has two best friends: a boy and a girl. She and the other girl like the boy-person. Soo... It's normal! ^¬^

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  • CinnamonToast

    I'm not going to vote on this one way or the other as far as 'normal' goes 'cause it's complicated. What I AM going to say is, if he doesn't notice you when other people are around, then you aren't a big enough part of his life for a relationship to work. I think you need to give up on being anything but friends and move on, sorry.

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  • AngAnders112

    "we both learned that we liked each other"

    if you both like each other in "that way" then why aren't you two officiall bf/gf?

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  • stonecutters93

    Of course it's normal for you to fall in love with your best friend. Have you mentioned something to him about it? You never know he might feel the same way you do, but you'll never find out unless you take that chance. Go for it, good luck!

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