Is it normal to be in love with someone i barely know?

3 years ago I made fun of this kid in high school. He was new, my friends dared me to get his attention and I did it through making fun of him. Yes it was mean, but he did it back. I never truly got to know the kid, but when we actually talked it was always just small talk.

But now it has been 3 years. Even at the mention of his name my heart jumps, my mind goes blank, my plams get sweaty. No one has ever made me feel that way besides him. And I have no idea why it happens, I never had a crush on the guy at the beginning, he was just a bet, a game, and now I can't get over him.

Is it normal to fall head over heels for someone you barely know?

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  • MarieSugarFree

    I'm sorry, but I have tried for 3 years to get over this kid. I don't think it's a crush.
    & the whole 'surface' thing. I knew his friends, I know background on him, I do know his flaws, I know that I love his chicken legs, the way his voice cracks, all the quarky things. So no, maybe I didn't try to make a friendship with him, I wasn't supposed to, it was a bet.

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  • kaegrl23

    I thinks thats how love starts in some peoples situations

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  • Caffine

    It is just a crush,find a true one or try to know this person well.

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  • skylight11

    this is jus a puppy crush, you'll get over him soon

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  • StarTeddy

    It's just a crush. It's not love, much less "being in love". Having random crushes is normal, though.

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  • Anime7

    It is very normal to be infatuated with someone after only knowing them for a short while.

    Rant: (Not a personal attack against the OP, just an observation that frustrates me)

    Why is it that this is the way people seem to like each other? I see this sort of thing happen a lot. People talk for very short instances and develop a superficial relationship and what you see on the surface is what catches your infatuation. You don't "love" the person's flaws, no you "love" them at their best. That's not the way it's suppose, and if it is then it shouldn't be. I feel that friendships aren't really valued anymore, like actually getting to know a person. Talking about what makes you sad, what gives you purpose, etc. I rarely see relationships develop this way, but the one's that I have seen develop this way (and yes I'm referring to people who have left the eponymous friend-zone) turn out very well. It just frustrates me that this is the way most people seem to like each other, small talk. Talking to a person for a short while and seeing what they are like on the surface. The only way you'll tolerate the flaws is if they are good looking. If your personality is great, that is fine, but it won't do you much good if your body and face isn't that attractive. I'm not saying that I haven't seen nice people find love (and I'm not referring to the blokes who are nice to women only to insult them when denied sex or put in the friend-zone). I am referring to the decent human beings in this world, men and women, who have so much to offer a person, aside from their looks. They have interesting conversations, they have an insightful view of the world, perhaps sometimes it may be pessimistic, but they will always be loyal and try to help you when they can. Why do these people have to wait till so later on in life to be valued? There's more to people than just their surface, and what's beneath that is probably a beautiful person, flawed, but in their own way beautiful. And that person, that imperfect human, is the one who you should learn to love, not the one on the surface.

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    • Devyn

      Well I was friends with my boyfriend for 2 years before we were together and the relationship was literally started by him randomly saying "I want to fuck you" in the middle of a typed Skype conversation, it just slowly developed from there.

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      • Anime7

        That's...direct. But at least you had 2yrs to get to know the guy.

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