Is it normal to be in love with an online friend?

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I have an online friend who i have been talking to for five years now and in the past few mind i think i have fallen in love with this girl i can't help but keep thinking about her all the time and i want to talk to her all the time doesn't even matter about what and etc... everything that comes with falling for someone. To me she feels even more important than all of the other people that i have known in my life like friends and family and of course it is almost impossible to know if she feels the same way or not because it is so limited to talk to someone like that there are barely any signs. Is it normal to develop feelings like this towards someone you have never met in real life and interacted with other than usual online interactions?

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  • EccentricM8
    6 years ago

    It is normal, and depending on your maturity, it can grow into something special. Good luck!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Can you explain a bit more what you mean by that?

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      • EccentricM8
        6 years ago

        In other words, you can establish and maintain a long distance relationship if you're mature enough to handle it.

        In other words, you'd have to learn to establish loyalty, honesty, and trust, all through words/calls.

        It may sound easy, but dating online has its flaws. You never really know what a person ttuly is like until you meet them in person. You could even be catfished, which is never really fun.

        However, one thing is true: Our deeper, truest selves can come out through the internet, with the barrier of in person interconnection removed. You'll see this as you try to reflect a you who is better than you really think you are, and well, everyone is like this, so NEVER set your expectations high.

        Once you've established a relationship, the key to making things work is communication. Talk about anything, get to know them well, dont be afraid to share your experiences, and establish a healthy baseline of communication. That'll help you out later in the relationship.

        I've been dating online since I was 14 or so, so I know a lot about the ins and outs. You sometimes meet people you wouldn't have the guts to meet otherwise, and it makes you inept at breaking down personalities of individuals.

        Just be true to yourself and get ready to learn a lot if you decide to go through online relationships. They take twice the effort, but the payoff is just as much and sometimes more than relationships that you would have in person (albeit, physical contact can be a dealbreakers for many. Its why they are hard to maintain.)

        Good luck and if you have any questions, let me know. I'll answer to the best of my abilities.

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        • Lins000
          6 years ago

          Don't you intend to meet your online girlfriend?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          Thank you for your reply but i think it's too early to call it an online relationship for that type for me cause i have no idea if she feels the same way and i don't dare to ask, yet. It's quite confusing to me sometimes i feel likewe're so close and other times i just feel like i am just another disposable online friend to her but i guess that's how it is with texts i can't know her real emotions and feelings without being kind of annoying and clingy if i ask all the time which i do at times.. I have a question though if i'd be happy if you can answer. I am not going through my best times these days i moved away to a whole new country for college and i am not really settling very well so i am having some tough times and there are times i just start complaining especially if she keeps asking me what's wrong (which is usually her) but i just tell her everything and i feel like i overwhelmed her but she says she doesn't mind at all what do you think about me doing that is it bad like a push off should i stop doing it? It kind of helps me but i regret it afterwards cause i feel vulnerable and weak. And one time i told her that i talking to her makes me happy and it's sometimes the only thing that lifts up my mood some days and all that do you think that was wrong and i should keep some kind of mysterious feelings or whatever to keep it interesting or is it ok to do that?
          I am sorry for writing so much lol i hope you actually read it and sorry if my questions are dumb but i wouldn't mind getting a second prospective on the whole thing and i hope you can help.
          Thanks again :)

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          • EccentricM8
            6 years ago

            Being genuine with her and evoking your emotions is great. There's no reason to feel ashamed. It doesn't make you seem weak, nor will she view you as such.

            Try talking on the phone/ skyping. See if you click through there.

            See, most guys think that by showing our soft sides, that we'll turn off women because we'll seem weak, and women only want strong, independent aloha males.

            Truth of the matter is, most women know to appreciate a man that's willing to be honest with his feelings and doesn't try to hide them. They love hearing emotions and being a part of them. Just like you'd feel important if she came to you for all her problems, the reverse is also truth.

            My advice to you is to try to have a serious talk with her about you situation with her. Be lighthearted in your approach if you're feeling nervous, but it doesn't hurt to ask where things are going. You're not going to lose what you already have, so don't be afraid.

            And look, if anything, a little boost to your confidence will take you far. I hope that things turn out great for you, but just never be afraid of the choices you haven't made.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              6 years ago

              I'll try to take your advice, i try but it doesn't come easily to me with the type of person i am. But it's not very hard to talk to her after all this time i think i know how to approach i just need to actually do it.

              Thank you so much for your help, You're awesome! :)

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  • ChrissySnow
    6 years ago

    Yes it is normal to develop feelings for that. It isn't normal to go past that. Think about it. People you see have faults. Over distance we can hide our faults better

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