Is it normal to be in love with an insane person?

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When I watched batman the 90 animated series I always thought the story of joker and Harley was just so romantic. I know this is insanely twisted but her undying devotion is absolutely beautiful. That is what true love should be. The idea of someone being so in love with someone that insane is just such a wonderful thought. Am I crazy for thinking so? I love the story for the innocent one who lost their head for a psycho. It is just grand isn't it? Everyone should love the person they are with this much. This is an example of the purest kind of love there is in this world. Am I sick for thinking this?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    This question is to vague to anwser with yes or no.
    Insane is a vague term.
    Loving someone with a mental disorder is perfectly normal.
    Loving someone who purposely hurts you is abnormal and stupid.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I meant it as would you love someone even if they had a mental issues. I do not mean if they are abusing you though.

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  • purpleflower
    11 years ago

    I would never date a mentally unstable or abusive person. But secretly... I always fall for the crazy serial killers.

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  • princesskitty
    11 years ago

    I love that way. Speaking from recent experience, now that I have dated a crazy person I would never do it again. I wasn't aware that this person was crazy. I just thought that she was an artistic mind like mine. She ended up breaking my heart. I am now going through each day, trying not to think of her. I tell myself time heals pain. But, honestly it hurts me more than loosing my first love. Crazy people are simply that, crazy. You have no idea what they will do to you. Harley Quinn and the Joker are make believe. In real life....the heart break runs deeper than any ocean.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    "To be in love with an insane person?"

    Ask any of my former girlfriends.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Tom you are just a asspuppet!

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      • coolio75650932
        11 years ago

        wait till you get in an arguement with me :3...you just met the most annoying person on IIN and the 3rd most famouse for being annoying...me

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        *an

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  • prasatko
    11 years ago

    Sorry OP that I have written several comments here and I have not answered your question so far:)

    But I guess that my answer can be deduced from my previous comments. Anyway, I think that your ideas are nice and even if they might sound naive or crazy to many people, it does not make them worse or more unrealistic than other "fantasies" which people have about relationships or life in general. So I would say your ideas are fine:)

    Of course, living with a psycho or unusual person is not as easy as it seems, but then again, also living with normal and healthy people is horrible sometimes and in some cases it is even more difficult to live with a sane, healthy and normal person, at least for me their sanity and sobriety would be unbearable:)

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Go to a Domestic Violence shelter and all of these questions will be answered.

    There really isn't anything fabulous about being in love with someone that will behead you, beat you, spend all of your money on drugs or rip their unborn child from your body. Being "insane" isn't as pretty or poetic as some movies and books make it look. It's hell. I have known plenty of women that were just lucky to have gotten away. It's not love, it's being so emotionally damaged that you don't know how to get away.

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    • prasatko
      11 years ago

      Well, I think that your perception of mentally ill people is quite narrow-minded. But it is quite common to have these prejudices. Just for your information, there are many diagnosis of mental illnesses or disorders that have nothing to do with violence and drugs.
      Of course our perceptions are shaped by personal experience or by watching horror movies by S.King and others.
      In my case, some of my friends have mental issues, including schizofrenia and they are the most peaceful and kindest people I have ever met. They suffer a lot or suffered terribly during certain periods of their life but they have not harmed anyone.
      Just flicking through a textbook of psychiatry might help you to see that violence, aggression or ripping unborn children from human body is NOT typical of most of the disorders.

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      • NeuroNeptunian
        11 years ago

        Maybe your perceptions, but I have dealt with mentally ill people and I said nothing about the mentally ill in general. I have also studied clinical psychology in the classroom environment.

        Mentally ill and insane are often two very different things and I would LOVE for you to point out where I referenced the mentally ill in general. Maybe if you looked through a book of clinical psychiatry YOURSELF, you'd know the two are different and that mental illness is not synonymous with insane. They are related conditions, but not the same. I stated insane. Yes, ripping a child from someone's body is something that one would have to be insane, generally, to do.

        I think you believing that my statements regarding exclusively people who are "insane" reference all of those who are mentally ill is narrow-minded.

        No, seriously. Before you respond to this, I would like a direct quote of my post as to where I even stated the TERM mentally ill. Otherwise, you have assumed and taken my reference to those who are "insane" way out of context.

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        • prasatko
          11 years ago

          The confusion might be caused by the fact that in my native language insane is synonymous with mentally ill and the dictionaries translate these words similarly or interchangably into Slovak which is my mother tongue.
          As for medical profession and English: "In the medical profession the term is now avoided in favor of diagnoses of specific mental disorders; the presence of delusions or hallucinations is broadly referred to as psychosis." As you should know, psychosis does not automatically imply violence or ripping of children´s body or whatever...I found out that insane often refers also to patients suffering from schizofrenia and those people are not aggressive in many cases.
          As for my education, do not worry, I have READ and STUDIED a few textbooks of clinical psychology and psychiatry as well.
          OK, I am not a native English speaker, so I was not aware of the way how you use and understand the term insane. Is it really so that in English insane means extremely aggressive or violent?

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          • NeuroNeptunian
            11 years ago

            In the legal sense, insane means lacking control over one's actions.

            in·sane [in-seyn] Show IPA
            adjective
            1.
            not sane; not of sound mind; mentally deranged.
            2.
            of, pertaining to, or characteristic of a person who is mentally deranged: insane actions; an insane asylum.
            3.
            utterly senseless: an insane plan.

            That's the English definition, my reference, which I thought I indicated by the entire context of my post, was towards those who are violently insane.

            "I love the story for the innocent one who lost their head for a psycho.".

            This is an excerpt from the OP's original post, which indicated to me that her definition of insane included insane in the violent sense. I did not address insane in the definition of the 1st definition of the one that I have listed. Maybe I should have done so.

            I did not believe that anyone would be offended by that. I guess I forgot where I was for a moment.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              11 years ago

              So by law people with turrets are insane? I looked for the definition and it said (In a state of mind that prevents normal perception, behavior, or social interaction; seriously mentally ill. The definition of mentally ill is of an unsound mind.

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            • prasatko
              11 years ago

              OK, I understand you now much better. Our misunderstanding was caused by different associations I had with the term "insane": I (mis)understood your post as referring to the first definition, that was why I assumed it was used in the meaning close to mentally ill, or in the meaning "insane asylum" as "mental hospital, psychiatric clinic" as used for example in English translations of works by Michel Foucault etc... And the OP term "psycho" was understood by me as "psychotic" or "psychiatric patients or something referring to psychopathology in general".
              OK, now I see what you meant. I was not offended myself, I am probably just sensitive to anything that I can interpret as prejudice against psychiatric patients - probably because of my personal experience and closeness with several people who were seriously ill (e.g. schizofrenia, anxiety disorders, eating disorders etc), they are / were very precious and gentle people, unfortunately two of them are not alive anymore. Just one memory sprang to my mind now - years ago when I went hiking with one of my close friends suffering from schizofrienia (the kindest person I knew at that time, extremely good to the pathological sense, committed suicide a few years later because of religious guilt when he believed he was not good enough) I learnt that one girl - paradoxically a medical student!? - refused to go with us because she was afraid that he would kill her because he was "insane" or "crazy"...
              If you had known him, you would have seen how absurd it was. And I have many more memories of similar taste...
              So again - sorry for the confusion caused by my associations with this unlucky term "insane".
              By the way, I have not been diagnosed with any mental illness so far, maybe because I have not entered the psychiatrist´s office yet:)

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            • prasatko
              11 years ago

              OK, I understand you know much better. Our misunderstanding was caused by different associations I had with the term "insane": I (mis)understood your post as referring to the first definition, that was why I assumed it was used in the meaning close to mentally ill, or in the meaning "insane asylum" as "mental hospital, psychiatric clinic" as used for example in English translations of works by Michel Foucault etc... And the OP term "psycho" was understood by me as "psychotic" or "psychiatric patients or something referring to psychopathology in general".
              OK, now I see what you meant. I was not offended myself, I am probably just sensitive to anything that I can interpret as prejudice against psychiatric patients - probably because of my personal experience and closeness with several people who were seriously ill (e.g. schizofrenia, anxiety disorders, eating disorders etc), they are / were very precious and gentle people, unfortunately two of them are not alive anymore. Just one memory sprang to my mind now - years ago when I went hiking with one of my close friends suffering from schizofrienia (the kindest person I knew at that time, extremely good to the pathological sense, committed suicide a few years later because of religious guilt when he believed he was not good enough) I learnt that one girl - paradoxically a medical student!? - refused to go with us because she was afraid that he would kill her because he was "insane" or "crazy"...
              If you had known him, you would have seen how absurd it was. And I have many more memories of similar taste...
              So again - sorry for the confusion caused by my associations with this unlucky term "insane".
              By the way, I have not been diagnosed with any mental illness so far, maybe because I have not entered the psychiatrist´s office yet:)

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        • prasatko
          11 years ago

          The confusion might be caused by the fact that in my native language insane is synonymous with mentally ill and the dictionaries translate these words similarly or interchangably into Slovak which is my mother tongue.
          As for medical profession and English: "In the medical profession the term is now avoided in favor of diagnoses of specific mental disorders; the presence of delusions or hallucinations is broadly referred to as psychosis." As you should know, psychisis does not include violence or ripping of children´s body or whatever...I found out that insane often refers also to patients suffering from schizofrenia and those people are not aggressive in many cases.
          As for my education, do not worry, I have READ and STUDIED a few textbooks of clinical psychology and psychiatry as well.
          OK, I am not a native English speaker, so I was not aware of the way how you use and understand the term insane. Is it really so that in English insane means extremely aggressive or violent?

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      • Zonfire80
        5 years ago

        As a bipolar person this has deeply offended me

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    • prasatko
      11 years ago

      Well, I think that your perception of mentally ill people is quite narrow-minded. But it is quite common to have these prejudices. Just for your information, there are many diagnosis of mental illnesses or disorders that have nothing to do with violence and drugs.
      Of course our perceptions are shaped by personal experience or by watching horror movies by S.King and others.
      In my case, some of my friends have mental issues, including schizofrenia and they are the most peaceful and kindest people I have ever met. They suffer a lot or suffered terribly during certain periods of their life but they have not harmed anyone.
      Just flicking through a textbook of psychiatry might help you to see that violence, aggression or ripping unborn children from human body is NOT typical of most of the disorders.

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