Is it normal to be in love with a replica of an abusive father?

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I'm in love with someone whose abusive and violent and I hate this fact. I hate being in love with him. It's ironical !
I have been brought up in a family full of abusive relationships. My father is abusive and beats my mother up. He insults us in front of whoever he wants and is a complete jerk.
Sadly even though I swore never to be with a guy like my father its destiny humor that I'm with someone so much similar.
Has anyone experienced this?

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Based on 39 votes (15 yes)
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  • lady6sky
    12 years ago

    After a while, we become numb to the fact that this goes on in our household and all become "normal". The attraction between you a a replica og your dad, according to some textbooks in psyc, says that is an attempt to solve some matters between you and your dad, which instead your dad, is your dude. Dont fall into this trap.

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  • Just1question
    12 years ago

    Soz but are you a guy with an abusive guy? Just wondering.

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  • MrsBailey9
    12 years ago

    Very common. Only you can break the cycle. You are a good person, you don't deserve to be treated poorly. You don't deserve to be abused. You have done nothing wrong... Sound familiar? Replace the word "You" with the word "I" and say these things to yourself every day. Write them down, until you believe them. No one deserves any type of abuse, it is ALL wrong! We are creatures of habit, and enjoy our comfort zones. Try living outside the box, take a chance and be free!

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    Yeah actually. I grew up in an abusive family and I ended up with a very abusive guy. I hear this is very normal.

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