Is it normal to be in love with 2 guys

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First i must apologize for writing a big paragraph . So I had this huge crush on a boy who's older than me so we've never really spoke to each other at all , it all started last january i constantly kept seeing him in my dreams . In my dreams first ge just saw me then left then he started like waving and then he started acting like my boyfriend and all but that was in the dreams in reality i started noticing he keeps staring at me but not in a creepy way more of cute , and my friends told me he always kept checking me out , but i still didn't want anything to happen between us at all cause he's kind of this bad boy thing that alot of girls like. I wanted to forget about him so i found this boy who's way more perfect than him he was cool,nice,more decent , cute and smart , i think i like him when i see him i smile but when i see that first guy my heart beats so hard im afraid that i still might be in love with him an im really confused right now so i need help sorting out my feelings

First guy 7
Second guy 9
Any other guys 4
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  • 69
    10 years ago

    so to sum up, you're dreaming and skipping heartbeats for the hot guy and trying to settle for the other nicer one who offers less competition?

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    • Elmanta
      10 years ago

      Kind of :( you see my friends and alot of people tell me like that hot guy is a HUGE JERK,he's just a player and not the guy that would ever be in a serious relationship , personally knowing some of his EXes I don't think he's the kind of guy that actually loves his girlfriend .

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  • davesumba
    10 years ago

    Alright, now that I got my hate for women out of my system, here's some real advice:
    I stopped reading about the first guy after "it all started in January when I kept seeing him in my dreams." Sounds like first guy is lust and the second one is actually a good guy who you can have a real [true] relationship with. (I decided to read more about guy one to give you more accurate advice, but it only confirmed my suspicions, all you know about him is that he's a hot guy who wants to fuck you and keeps checking you out). But in either case, it is up to the guy, not you. And I guarantee you if you asked guy one out, he'd hit it and quit it, or stay around just to fuck around.

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    • Elmanta
      10 years ago

      And yeah i pretty much think that he would just hit it and quit it :/

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    • Elmanta
      10 years ago

      Thank you davesumba , because honestly that was really helpful you're right he's just a jerk probably playing with my feelings , even if he approaches me and tells me he likes me or even loves me i wouldn't even give him that chance . Because Im not gonna be just one of his EXes , thank you :)

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  • Rawan_Diaa
    10 years ago

    I think if you really loved the first one there wouldn't be a second one :)

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    • Elmanta
      10 years ago

      I swear to god its me

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    • Elmanta
      10 years ago

      You see rawan the problem is I didn't want to fall in love with the first guy EVER the other one was just some sort of a distraction i think but i kinda like him

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  • iEatZombies_
    10 years ago

    You should stop and evaluate how you feel. Don't worry about what others say- people talk. Just figure out if you -feel good- about one of these guys. Ignore the lust and the logic. "Well, he's hott and checks me out" or "He's nice and well-mannered" isn't going to help anything. You have to get a feeling of "I would give what I don't have for him and he loves me enough not to take advantage of that" (and vice versa). Keep in mind that you are young, you're still figuring this all out. You don't have to love someone to date them- you just have to set limits and respect yourself.

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    • Elmanta
      10 years ago

      Thank you for your advice , you're right i should give myself the time to evaluate my feelings for each of them and see which one i like more and i really should stop worrying about what people say about me and do what i think its right for me and makes me happy :)

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  • davesumba
    10 years ago

    nah, usually girls try to juggle at least three guys at a time, you are abnormal for your gender.

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    • Elmanta
      10 years ago

      I'm not that kind if girl :) you see im the type that would want that relationshiP thats actually worth it :D because i always wana feel good about myself and what i do :) and the kind of girl that would cheat on the boyfriend , she's just not worth it

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      • davesumba
        10 years ago

        ahhh, one of the rare one-guy serious relationship girls, I wish there were more like you in the world.

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        • Elmanta
          10 years ago

          There are you just gotta look for the beautiful personlity kind of girl , and also look really hard :D

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          • davesumba
            10 years ago

            Except when she has such a beautiful personality that everyone wants and flirts with her, but she assures you she doesn't have any feelings for them, only to find out after a year of dating that she cheated on you with at least 2 different guys, then proceeds to make you look like the bad guy to her friends even though you did absolutely everything she ever asked and never wronged her once, yet her friends that you shared for the duration and grew to like turn on you and think she would never cheat.

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            • Elmanta
              10 years ago

              You sound like you're speaking from experience :/ , im sorry for you , that kind of girl is completely not worth it , but you still shouldn't give up , there is some girl out there for you she might be having that same feeling you have right now :/ real women are alot better than so , you just have to have patience :)

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