Is it normal to be in love this long?

I fell in love with a teacher when I was in high school. He was in his mid-twenties, and I believe he was single for most of those four years. I dismissed my feelings throughout high school for several reasons. I come from a very strict, conservative family, and presenting them with this would result in complete turmoil. I was also scared of being laughed at, and ultimately rejected by everyone for my childish fancy for a teacher. It was not until I was done with school that I realized how much he really meant to me. And I realized that I didn’t care about his race or background or salary or the way he looked. I loved myself when I was with him. He gave me so much confidence and motivation. Even the darkest moments resolved into relief with the prospect of seeing him and talking to him the next day. Because my brother goes to the same high school, I see him occasionally. It was at one such meeting that he casually mentioned something about his new girlfriend. So now I have absolutely no chance. It’s done for. Even if I wait a whole lifetime for him, what good is it if he loves someone else? It’s been seven years now, and I’m still in love with the man. It’s as if I’m in Dante’s inferno. I have no one to talk to and no one to help me. Please help…

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  • Runaway

    IMPO, I don't think you can fall in love with someone without at least a slightly mutual feeling. I would call that idolatry.

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  • witchywoo

    I had a crush on my Spanish teacher when I was 14. I then fell in LOVE with my drama teacher at 15. It hurts like hell but it is normal to be in love. Love is strange and uncontrollable.

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  • Ms.Caffinated

    i think you shouldn't interupt his life. BUT you should jokeingly put it out there that you had a huge crush on him and maybe it might get the ball running in his head. who knows he might want to talk to you morw just to entertain your fancy and might end up liking you that way. don't come off as a creep though XD

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  • Energy

    Either tell him how you feel, or get away from him as far as possible.

    By telling him how you feel about him, he may give you a chance. Who knows maybe he even feels the same way about you. However, there is also a chance he will reject you. So be ready for anything.

    Distancing yourself from him. I would say that's the healthiest thing to do. It may be the hardest, but it's the best option, in my opinion. This way you will evantually find someone else, and not have to experience rejection, if he does reject you.

    All in all, it's YOUR choice. Do whatever feels right.

    Good luck!

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  • PrincessLollipop

    Well, the only thing you can do is profess your love for him! If you don't you might spend another 7 years wishing you did!

    He might secretly fancy you too, but I imagine it would be a difficult subject to bring up since you are his former student.

    Who knows, maybe he'll be your prince charming?! :D

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  • thecoldhardtruth

    I had a small crush on my gorgeous science teacher. There's only one way to find out if he feels the same way. Regret is the the worst feeling to live with.

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  • toliety

    Sure

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