Is it normal to be "in love" at 18?

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My girlfriend is 16, and I just turned 18 this month. We've been together for 2 years and a half now. To be honest, I care about her more than anyone else, more than my family even. She seems to feel that way too, but then again, she's very young, and so am I. I recently moved to her building to be closer to her, she loves this and we see each other every day, from morning to night, since her parents are never home.

My problem is, am I just, in over my head? Everyone tells me I'm too young and that I should be having fun, but I am. I just don't know if it's imposibble for me or her to actually be IN love. Maybe she just really likes me. I don't know what to do, I don't want to lose her.

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  • Dizzee
    12 years ago

    I'd say yes and no. You have to be careful when falling in love at a young age (Though, I'm not much older). I'm just telling you this through experience.
    And don't be totally obsessed over her and spend all your time with her because you both might get on each others nerves. If you starting arguing about the littlest things, you'll start to wonder why you two are together and you'll drift apart.
    Overall, this is really adorable and congrats in finding someone whom you share love with.

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    • 001011001
      12 years ago

      We do argue sometimes, she's a very smart girl for her age and can hold up a hell of a fight. But we always make up right after. Thanks for the kind words, to everyone. Love feels like such a big thing, its terrifying, I really hope she's the one I'm going to spend my life with. She's such a lovely person.

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      • Benchmade93
        11 years ago

        I am 18 my girlfriend is about to be 16 we have been together for a year and a half and I am madly in love with her and she is with me. I absolutely understand exactly what you mean and honestly your girl sounds alot like my incredible girlfriend. Dont let anyone tell you any different or sway your feelings, I mean really how the fuck does anyone have the audacity to tell you how YOU feel. I am just really glad to know that I am not the only damn 18 year old to feel like this thank you sir and I truly hope that you two go the distance Love is scary in the most amazing way my only advice is dont spent too much time thinking about the future because you are both young and I do say this from experience with my girlfriend future shit can be overwhelming take it one day at a time and enjoy every minute.

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        • Dad
          11 years ago

          Actually to the topic starter 001011001 (if you're still out there, as its been 11 months now) Are you still together? What happened?
          The experience you hold could possibly help Benchmade93 too.

          To Benchmade93, your girl is obviously still very young.
          How she feels today, 'may' not be how she feels in a few months.
          Plus as she eventually gets to the 'legal' age of going out to nightclubs and even driving etc, this also may change her life a bit.

          Since you are 'madly in love' with her, then I say cherish the days. As gf/bf relationships don't last forever, they either break up (very common for young teens) or eventually get married (I hope you have some type of future career going for the both of you and hopeful family one day?)

          18 is also very young for a male. Any 25yo will tell you about the mistakes they made at 18. Yes its great having strong feelings for one you are with, but even YOU have a whole life ahead of you. Some people travel, some go out and party hard, some start a promising career. Try to see the bigger picture, your 'girl' is your girl, but you still have a life. If not now, then soon.

          Good luck anyhow. A very small percentage of teens actually DO stay happily together forever. But either way its still not the end of your life. Continue to do what makes you happy.

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  • MyHazelLabyrinth
    12 years ago

    i know this is not a very helpful comment but i just wanted to say that i think this is so sweet and adorable. It is so nice that you have been together for that long and still love to be around each othe so much. More relationships should be like thisi think. I just don't come across it much these days.

    I think that if you really aren't sure you should just talk to her.

    But age is only a number, i think it how mature you are really. And i have friend in their forties etc and they are like children. Age doesn't really play into this all too much.

    I think that if you love her and she loves you, then that's all that matters. :)

    I hope this continues for you :)

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    If you two end up together she may feel as though she didn't have any experience with boys in her youth, and look for outside attention later. However I was 19 when I met my husband, 6 years later we got married and we've been married 22 years now. So yes, it can work but be careful to allow the other person to grow and don't suffocate each other. I think that's why we work together. We agree that either of us can do anything we want as long as we don't hurt each other, or anyone else.

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  • disthing
    12 years ago

    You can't choose when or with whom you fall in love. Teenagers are as capable of falling in love as adults; actually I'd say often the feeling is more intense due to the emotional fluctuation of puberty. Whether or not some people think you should be 'out having fun', your happiness is the only thing that should matter to you. If being with her makes you happy, be with her.

    My suggestion is that you don't make everything revolve and rely upon you and her being a couple. In other words, don't make it so you and her breaking up would leave either of you homeless, or in debt, or with no friends. Maintain a healthy social life and independent life alongside your life with her.

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  • UliNalaMansae
    12 years ago

    you're young, wait it out to sea if you still love each other after 5 years, thats the challenge.

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  • MissWhip
    12 years ago

    Its not normal however that doesn't mean it can't happen. Chill out, if you're happy what/why are you questioning it?

    Spend time enjoying now, not worrying about tomorrow.

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  • veryhumbleperson
    12 years ago

    You might be in love, but the numbers say you are going through a hormonal time and decisions are made on impulses instead of sound thought.

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    It's possible to fall in love at 18 but normally cases like this don't end well. You guys are too you, you haven't even gone through adult hood. When someone goes through adult hood THEY CHANGE (normally for the better) and most relationships, especially young love, don't last through big change.

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