Is it normal to be in a relationship like this?

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Basically I want to know what the right way to deal with a situation is; is it normal to be acting crazy then about 1/2 hours silence later ask casually if you want a cup of tea? This is how my boyfriend treats me when we have a disagreement - then because I don't want a cup of tea or to small talk he will usually go out and/or ignore me. So when he finally comes back I don't want to talk unless he's apologising - which he rarely does - and I get told I'm cold and shut off attention and affection?! When I've spoke to certain people about it they have told me to give him more affection? My head is blagged - that behaviour doesn't warrant attention?!
So should I give him more attention?
Or tell him to do one?

Give him more affection 21
Tell him to sling his hook 31
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  • CptBallbag
    11 years ago

    It definitely sounds like there's more to this. No-one ever broke up over a cup of tea.

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  • hidden_in_the_shadows
    11 years ago

    that does "sling his hook" mean?

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    • myboyfriendsbitch
      11 years ago

      perhaps he is a fisherman.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago

    Just take the damn cup of tea. He is trying to let go of the negative feelings and your refusal makes it seem like you are trying to hold on to them.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Lol saying he was 'acting crazy' was being polite. And I have tried that but he still continues to be silent/take everything I say the wrong way. This time for instance, I took the brew and have been waiting a week for him to explain himself - basically our disagreement was he wrote my car off and all I got was a lame 'sorry I crashed your car' when he got in. He still hasn't mentioned anything about it to me. I know the post doesn't really explain what had happened I just wondered what normal protocol I that sort of situation would be.

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    • 69
      11 years ago

      yes, seems like cup of tea in his language means i'm sorry

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  • carrieonbag
    10 years ago

    He sounds like a guy I just broke up with there is no future with that one. He was probably nice at the beginning then showed his true colors. He probably is a drinker and grouchy in the morning, then grouchy at night so he is only nice after a few drinks and a control freak and everything gets on his nerves or maybe when you are on holiday is he is fun but that is not how to live your life. DUMP HIM.

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  • JustCallumHere:)
    10 years ago

    Tell him to fucking do one...

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  • hidden_in_the_shadows
    11 years ago

    no really what does "sling his hook" mean?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Ha just a way of saying I would tell him to leave.

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      • hidden_in_the_shadows
        11 years ago

        thanks :)

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  • Holzman67
    11 years ago

    It sounds like a passive aggressive relationship that infrequently boils over.
    The tea ritual is kinda odd though, the domestic politics of it are kind of intriguing.

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    • Elliemental
      10 years ago

      I agree with the passive aggressive aspect, he sounds like he has a an immature response to messing up, instead of apologising he offers you a sort of olive branch...... tea (I take it your British? This is our way of dealing with everything, someone has died....'cuppa tea?') when he shouldn't just try n smooth things over he should apologise and take responsibility for his actions. Sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel. Don't back down to avoid conflict and deal with the actual issue in your relationship, if he doesn't want to listen or explain himself then tell him to sling his hook!

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