Is it normal to be in a love triangle with your best friends?

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Ok, I meet my girl and guy best friend at work about 2 years ago. I thought my guy best friend was the cutest thing ever when I met him and now I have found myself in love with him and he is all I think about. There's a major wire keeping me from him. He has the hugest crush on my girl best friend and has no clue I like him. We all three went on vacation recently where beforehand, him and I were getting closer I thought. I thought the vacation would be the perfect chance for me to tell him I have loved him for like 2 years, but he continuously flirted with my girl best friend the entire trip. When I finally got him alone, he confessed that he really really liked her so I kept my mouth shut because I want him to be happy and she is who he wants. I talked to my girl best friend and asked if she knew he liked her, she didn't of course but after finding out she thinks she likes him back and of course she doesn't know my feelings towards to him. Well one day she was talking and she figured it out, that I was in love him only right after saying she could see herself with him settling down with him and his family. She's been laughing about it as a joke. The sad thing is, I want her to date him just because he really likes her. See he has been hurt really really bad by some girls that broke his heart years ago which affects him now, I CAN NOT stand to see him hurt again and he really wants her. I love him so much that I want him to find happiness. I try to forget my feelings for him but every time they do something together or talk about each other to me or text, I break down when I am alone. They are not even dating yet and my heart hurts so much but I want them to be happy. What do I do?

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  • Judas_misunderstood
    13 years ago

    So, they're not even dating?
    Your female friend knows how you feel?
    Tell her to shit, or get off the pot. Make a move or don't get upset when you make one. She's probably holding fire because she doesn't want to hurt you, though. Maybe they're already dating (or sleeping together) and haven't told you to spare your feelings.

    Your guy friend has no idea about your feelings?
    He's in love with another woman?
    You might be heading for heartbreak if you declare your feelings, start a relationship and have him end it because his heart isn't in it.

    This is a sticky one, and a sucky one. It isn't really a love triangle, though.

    My primitive male brain says: you could suggest a threesome. I doubt that's going to happen, though.

    Life lesson: strike while the iron is hot. You should have told him way, way earlier. Next time you want something, don't hesitate. You have a right to happiness.

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  • Juniper
    12 years ago

    Tell him, at least you'll know you tried...this almost sounds like my problem I posted on here :(

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  • killiminati
    13 years ago

    Get over it it seems like ur constantly with these people get more friends and stop looking for relationships the good ones come randomly and natural

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  • Kujaku13
    13 years ago

    Oh Gawd, I feel ya. I am TOTALLY in love with my best girl friend, but she likes my best guy friend :/

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  • pyt1985
    13 years ago

    I agree with judas. Just take this as lesson learned, dnt let love pass you by. Next time speak up, who knows he may have liked you too but u never said anything so he pushed past it and moved on. Now it'll just be a mess if u try to pursue him. U may make ur friend feel bad and might he uncomfortable around you because of fear of saying the wrong thing (about ur friend) and hurting u. I'd say just let this be the fish that got away. Theres plenty more in the sea. And tell ur female friend if she hurts him ur gonna kick her @&!

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