Is it normal to be in a good relationship and still feel empty?

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I've been with my current partner for over three years and we're technically engaged.

Although our beliefs are very different, we work well together in a lot of ways and are close.
He's sweet towards me and very affectionate, but sexually he is a lot less experienced and comfortable than I am.
A lot of the time we're a bit like what I consider an older married couple to be and it's boring.
Romantically, things would be perfect (in society's eyes). Sexually, things seem to be getting better bit by bit even if it's happening very slowly.

It comes on only every now and again, but I sometimes feel empty in the relationship and feel like I ought to end things... but then something happens and things seem good again.
I was like this in my previous relationship, which I was in for about 4.5 years.

I sometimes wonder if I'd be better off ending the relationship but then coming to the realisation that he might never want anything to do with me again if I do and that I could never go back(I broke up with my ex over 4 years ago and she's only just started trying to date again).

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  • Aless
    11 years ago

    Ok so unfortunatelly this is normal and i say that because i believe it hapens often NOW
    what this comes down to is ARE YOU HAPPY?
    no do understand the question and make sure you realise the differences between being happy and just being used to or comfortable with some one now i wont tell you to end it or to remain in the relationship im no one to tell you that but if youre not happy what should you do ?
    if you are taking some one else's spot why do so ?
    get where im going here?

    anyways
    comminication is also key i hope you are actually communicating with your partner about all your concerns and or issues if not a problem left unsolved could only become bigger and i know this from expirience lol

    anywho
    follow your heart but dont ever be reckless and i hope and wish you the absolute best :)

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  • forever_anon
    11 years ago

    Unfortunately, this happens to a lot of couples. I can relate to this question because my spouse and I are very much like you two. We work well together, enjoy each other's company, and are very affectionate. From the outside, we look like the perfect couple. However, I sometimes wish that we had a stronger sexual connection. This troubled me for a long time, but I decided that having a good man was more important than great sex, and chose to stay with him.

    You seem to really want this man in your life, so it may be worthwhile to get some couples counseling for the sexual issues. It may be that, with time and practice, the sex will improve. But if you think that the lack of sexual chemistry will keep weighing on your mind, or if you find yourself fantasizing excessively about other men, then this relationship may not be the best match for you.

    I wish you the best in whatever you chose to do.

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  • Iamdolan
    11 years ago

    Give him sex and let him cum inside you
    You won't feel empty anymore

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