Is it normal to be hurt when you see things your bf did in the past?

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I love my boyfriend, & he is incredible. But every now and then I go through people's fb check their pics & whatever & I see a comment of his & it's always something flirty or provocative. I mean yeah he was a single bachelor once a upon time but every time I see something like that it really hurts me & kills me! Yeah I have a past too but I never was a creeper. I mean he's never ever ever been like that to me. S***, I would have smacked him in the face! lol I don't take any sexual comments or opinions from any guys. That's just disrespectful & especially if I am "talking" to. So, let me know if this is normal? IF so, or if not, what should I do to just get over it? Should I be concerned about it or just brush it off my shoulder? Thanks a ton! :)

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago

    Stop going through people's fb's and checking their pic comments and whatever.

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  • georgienne
    12 years ago

    My boyfriend was a complete player before me; he'd dated some many people, mostly just for summers (vacations, camps, family visits). He always said it was because he preferred female company, and he does (all his closest friends are female), but I never knew why he had to date them..
    It still bothers me today, but I know hes a good guy and he's happier than ever with me.
    It IS the past, don't bring it into your future. Let it go. :)

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    Just realize that it's in the past. Brush it off. You can't erase the things that he said in the past. You can't erase any of that, so you just have to understand that at the time, he was, "single ready to mingle", and with that had to come a little flirting. In the end, stop and take a look at this as a whole. Who has him? You do. You got him in the end. Nothing else should matter except for how you two are with each other right now.

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  • ms41778
    11 years ago

    Stop stalking his past...it will RUIN your relationship...I know from experience. I couldn't check my email without my ex checking up on me...It pushed me so far away I couldn't take it. She had a shady past, yet used mine against me. Its a dark road to go down.

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  • soccerrox88
    12 years ago

    I feel the exact same way! I saw a quote once that helped me feel a bit better, it was something like "it doesn't matter that you weren't their first, as long as you're their last". So, yeah it sucks when I see old comments of my bf's, telling his female friends that they're beautiful and whatever else, but I just try to enjoy every moment I have with him instead of wasting those moments on worrying about the past. Its hard, and sometimes I still find myself getting a bit upset over things like this, but all you can do is try. Good luck :)

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    I've been in love with people. It'd be a problem with potential girlfriends if I was in love with someone else but the key word is "was". Past tense.

    If, on the other hand, you don't like the way your boyfriend attracted a mate, then this really is a problem because you were attracted the same way.

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