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The other day my older sister was kicked out, and she got most of her stuff, and...I'm rather happy she's gone, but I feel guilty for being happy which takes away from the happiness? Is it normal to feel guilty about this happiness? I also feel a little guilty 'cause I'm packing the rest of her stuff in a cardboard box...
Its terrible when conflict comes down to that act of desperation. Really, its hard not to see both sides: parents (& other family members) are only human & can only be pushed so far - OLDER kids do go through tough times & need to be supported/protected (tossing out young teens/kids is abandonment).
So you feel some relief - but there will always be ambivalence because this was not a good resolution to the conflict.
Depends on why se was kicked out. If it wasn't her fault, then it's normal to feel guilty for enjoying someone's misfortune.
Well if you are happy she is gone then there must be a good reason for it. It's not like you won't see her ever again. So it's ok to feel that way if she only moved out. If she wasn't nice then u have a reason. But hopefully this is her wake up call and she will start acting mature and nice.
Well, my sister treats my mother and me like crap, even when we try to be nice; she's a real problem child and she always bad mouths my mother. But, she's had her problems, so... It just confuses me and I'm not sure what I should be feeling
As I stated before, my parents did it to my brother when he was a teenager and I think it was the worst decision, as parents, that they EVER made. He went into foster care for a couple of years until he was old enough to live on his own. Then he stole some of their things, they charged him with theft, and they cut off all contact with him for three more years. I didn't live with my parents at the time, I'm older. They were SO nice to me during the years they abandoned him - I think it was to prove that they weren't as horrible as they thought they might be. It did feel good to be treated nicely by them, finally, but I didn't like that it was at my brother's expense. I spent a very long time trying to convince them to give him a second chance. Eventually, they listened. My mother regrets it, but my father is too proud to admit when he’s wrong.
I don't believe that parents should boot their children out before they are 18 years old. My parents did it to my younger brother. I understand how you feel.