Is it normal to be friends with this person while in a relationship?

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I've been friends with this gay man that I know named K (let's just call him that because his name starts with a K) we have been friends for about 3 years now and we are very close even though he lives far away and I don't see him often. He has been gay and admitted it in middle school and all of our group of friends and everyone else knows it. I have met one of his boyfriends as well. Anyways, in the past BEFORE I started dating the boyfriend I have now (we have been dating for over a year) my gay friend K and I made out. He wanted to see what it was like to make out with a girl.... We also made plans to have sex. We never did! So my current boyfriend knows about me and K's past friendship. We aren't like that anymore obviously because I have a boyfriend, but recently my friend K was joking around and asked me online if we could make out next time we hung out... I obviously said no because I have a boyfriend ...well my boyfriend got mad and now doesn't want me talking to K... But my boyfriend doesn't undersand that K is truly gay and just kids around like that....is my boyfriend right, and should I no longer associate with K? IIN?

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    So your boyfriend is mad cos K was hitting on you in "play".

    Perhaps it's time for you to set up boundaries with K. I don't mean "never talk to him" but rather "tone it down a little".

    Cos ... just because he's gay doesn't mean his flirting is appropriate.

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    • foxyk
      11 years ago

      Yeah that's what I'm trying to do. I deleted K off Facebook and now he's upset and thinks I hate him.. My boyfriend told me to never talk to him again and to delete him. I am trying to convince my boyfriend that if I tell K to stop joking around like that, then it would be a good solution cuz he would stop but my boyfriend isn't up for it

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        11 years ago

        Ok now that's too far.

        it's one thing to ask that the buddies tone it down, but to demand you give up friends for them...

        To be honest they both sound like drama queens now

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    I would be pissed at any guy, wanting to make out with my girlfriend. Strait or gay has nothing to do with the fact that "K" knows you are in a relationship, and should not be asking you those questions.

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  • Sog
    11 years ago

    It sounds like you care more about your FWB "K" than your boyfriend. How can you not see why your boyfriend would be upset about this?

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  • Crashing
    11 years ago

    Don't let your boyfriend choose your friends. My brother does that with his girlfriend, and she stopped talking to her bestfriend. There has to be trust.

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  • janetsauce
    11 years ago

    What's the question? Is your boyfriend right or the original question? If the original, yes. Is your boyfriends right? Then no.

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