Is it normal to be friends?

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Over the past few years due to changing, arguments, drifting apart after school and people moving away I'm now at the point where I have practically no friends left.

There are 2 people I met on a short course who want to keep in contact and despite not liking either of them I'm thinking of hanging out with them.

I realise this will make me sound like a manipulative, nasty person and I'm not even sure if I am or not anymore but let me explain.

One of them is a girl I was on the course with, she was really nice at first but then after a while she couldn't keep it up, she would make up lies for attention but eould tell different stories to different people, I believed that she had been abused by her boyfriend, turns out it wasn't true, she also comes out with cringeworthy sexist remarks around anyone.

The other is a guy I met when I was working a temp job on the course,
He comes out with racist remarks and always talks and brags about his shoplifting skills and arrests etc.

All I've been doing recently is working ( in a lonley job so I can't meet people there) getting home, watching tv and sleeping, that's it, zero social life now.

I'm thinking that if I go out and meet up with these guys I could meet people, also I see elements of a nice person behind all the front, maybe if I get to know them I'll get to like them, also, and I feel ashamed I feel this way but if they were to knock at my house I'd be embarrassed if my family meets them, I know that's a judgmental thing to say but I'm not racist or sexist so if either of them come out with these sorts if comments they'd be horrified, and fir some reason I feel really paranoid about what they'd think.

So, has anyone else been in a situation like this and am I as heartless as I feel I am and, IIN?

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    It's somewhat normal to be in an awkward situation like this with people who are not quite friends. Perhaps it might feel as if to hang out with them would be better than to be alone but I would highly recommend against it. The fact that you would be embarrassed for your parents to meet these two characters is a huge red flag. If I were you I would find some activities to do on your own where you could meet like minded people and possibly build appropriate friendships.

    Please try not to judge yourself harshly.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Thanks :)

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        Your very welcome.

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  • Gspyder
    10 years ago

    Be careful of the company you keep. Your friends are amongst your greatest influences so its important to pick good, trustworthy people.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Thanks and I definitely see your point but I'm pretty strong minded, I don't think I'll be easily swayed, then again maybe everyone thinks that. Cheers :)

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  • steppenwolf
    10 years ago

    Ditto for me. I generally keep friends as long as they are in close proximity. I am kind of an asocial one, so I haven't kept up long distances relationships. Probably should hang on to a couple of the good ones, but the occasional phone call just doesn't seem to do it. I blame the non-community based society we live in. I've heard joining groups or clubs with people with similar interests is the best way to make friends. I keep thinking I'll do that, but haven't gotten around it. Plus, there's not many clubs of people that like 19th century literature and are annoyed by other people in the room. And, this comment is way too long and indicative of my narcissistic tendencies. So the fact that I say its normal probably means the opposite.

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  • jeremybrown50k
    10 years ago

    Yes.

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