Is it normal to be fantasising about other guys when you've got a bf?

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I've been with my boyfriend for four and a half years.

I love him so much. To bits. I'm pretty sure I want to marry him. I love every moment we spend together and I hate having to leave him and be apart for weeks at a time.

But in my loneliness recently, I ended up thinking about other guys who I think are hot, and finding myself wondering what it would be like to kiss them, or get a bit more involved with them on the dance floor.

I know it's wrong, and I would never do anything about it. But the thoughts are still there. The temptation is still there sometimes.

I think it partially comes from never having been with anyone else except for my boyfriend. I've never experienced single life at uni (college) and I was very very single up until I was nearly 17.

Also partially from just needing a man around. Needing some man-love.

Would love some feedback.

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Based on 63 votes (51 yes)
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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    i agree with Jen. i know people who lost their virginity to each other and got married and it never worked out because both of them were constantly wondering what it would have been like with other people. so instead of cheating on each other, they split up. maybe ask to have an open relationship until you are satisfied? but i never in my right mind would ever think of marrying my first.

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  • Jen118584
    13 years ago

    Take it from me, if you move on to marriage from here, you will end up regretting not seeing other people. I'm sure he's a great guy, and I'm sure you love him, but in my opinion, you would benefit from playing the field a bit before you settle down with him permanently.

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  • social_butterfly24
    13 years ago

    I totally agree with you lululu dreaming wont hurt a sole. I've been with my boyfriend for sometime now and every now and again I day dream of other guys. It's innocent. At least you can do whatever you want with those guys in your dreams but when reality kicks in you know who you truly want to be with.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    normal I guess, I bet your bf wouldn't like it anyway

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  • kellstar
    13 years ago

    Normal

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  • saadiya96
    13 years ago

    That is definately normal. I am like that too, so I just don't commit to one guy anymore.

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  • lululu
    13 years ago

    don't worry! it's normal...the same happens to me sometimes! i've been with my bf for two and half years and he 's my first love experience...i often fantasise about kissing or making out with other guys but i'd never cheat on him! reality sometimes is very boring and foreseeable...dreaming won't harm anyone!

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  • vera046
    13 years ago

    It's definitely normal. If you're daydreaming or fantasising you always make it a bit more exciting than real life.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    You're not normal, go suck a thumb

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  • Adam_6996
    13 years ago

    its NORMAL to fantasise but wats important is that would would you actually try somefin wif another guy jus coz its normal??? i fink its wrong

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