Is it normal to be extremely idealistic about relationships?

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I am 21, and I have never had a girlfriend. The main reason is that I am extremely idealistic about the type of girl I would accept. I will not describe her exactly, because it may be too revealing of me, but she absolutely MUST have a number of specific personality traits that are uncommon and take alot of strength of character to develop. She also must have a specific appearance, which is equally uncommon.

Occasionally a girl will, through some subtle word or deed, reveal that she may possess one or some of the ideal qualities I desire, and it sets my heart aflutter. I have the same reaction when I see a girl who resembles my dream girl, and I have to fight the urge to "experiment" with her to determine whether she has the ideal qualities.

I have had the same ideals since I was 16. If this ideal girl does not exist, I simply will never have a serious relationship with a female; that is how strongly I feel about this. Is this normal?

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  • Who_Fan4Life
    13 years ago

    Just fuckin' bang a bitch already, jeeze.

    But no really. I'm kind of in the same situation. Normal.

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  • lolzya
    13 years ago

    we all have our ideal partner, but theres a huge difference in the type of person we would like to be in a relationship with and what type of people are out there in reality. I think you should fouces more on the person themselves then what you want them to be.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    Eventually you will get so horny that you will just bang any skunk.

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  • soccernerd12
    13 years ago

    U just have high standards and there is nothing wrong with that, i hope. I am 20 and am the same way about the kind of guy I want. I am sure that we will find them and when we do it will be the best marriage ever because we wont have settled. I hope u find your dream girl and I am sure when u do, you will be her dream man.

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      Your optimism is encouraging, thanks. I hope you find your dream man.

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    ....that's why you wash your hands after you cum.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    And I'm not talking physical standards. Personality should be a big factor as well.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Yes, you have standards, and that is good. Unlike so many people today who will just jump into bed with anyone. Guys and girls alike should not be easy and have some kind of value to themselves.

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  • roxco
    13 years ago

    You would have to look like Mario lopez to be sooo picky!!! If you don't chill the fuck out cus no one is perfect!!!

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      WRONG! Remember, I said the perfect girl has traits that "take alot of strength of character to develop." It would be accurate to say that no one is born perfect. It would not be accurate to say that all women lack strength of character.

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  • DannyKanes
    13 years ago

    It's soooo fluffy!

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  • q.uarter
    13 years ago

    Dude I'm the same, my idea of the perfect guy is just ridiculous :| I swear I'll never meet a guy with the kind of personality I dream of... AND I'm REALLY picky about looks, which makes me feel shallow but what's the point in being with someone you don't find attractive?
    However... I've had feelings for and relationships with guys who don't fit my 'criteria' at all and it's been really good. Sometimes you just fall for someone anyway :\

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  • DrinaVonCheez
    13 years ago

    I used to be the same way. I used to obsess over finding my "perfect boyfriend." After some trial and error I'm pretty sure I've found that boy, and what's so perfect about him is that he's perfectly imperfect.
    He's better than the guy of my dreams, he's real :]

    I hope you find your mrs. perfect :)

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  • Glambamx3
    13 years ago

    It's nice to have high standards for someone and I do have my own ideal man but I don't believe that someone will have EVERY single quality I wish for. I hope your search for your ideal girl doesn't ruin your chance in falling in love with someone who may be the perfect one for you and you don't even realize. Best of luck.

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