Is it normal to be dumped for this reason?

been through the same thing.
I think it's bullshit.

Its a cope out, the modern version of "its not you, its me".

Cop out. You don't leave someone you love to save them from being with you, that only happens in the movies!

Massive cop out or violent serial killer who just spared you?

I bet hes a gay, and just finally starting to admit to himself. ~ anyway what ever his reason its seems cowardly, and dishonest.

It could be a cop out... although if he realizes he's a jerk then it could be to save you. it could go either way hun.

he defo just let you down gently. tried to anyway.

to be honest i've been through the same thing, and yeah it does feel like a cop out,
but to be honest relationships are hard, and if the guy feels like he's not going to be able to provide you with a happy one most of the time, then yeah he probably is doing whats best for you.
it's stupid and makes you feel like crap because obviously you want to make decisions like that, but just trust it, and anyway if someone is going to be like that with you then they obviously aren't good enough for you in the first place

He doesnt know what reason to give you so he says that bullshit to make you believe hes a sweet guy. Fuck him. You obviously deserve better whatsoever.

Miss I am sorry to inform you that this male has lost interest in your womanly features. This excuse was an attempt to dodge the brutal backlash that was sure to follow if he were to speak the truth. I recommend you go find another walking sack of meat as there are billions of them out there, of both varieties (male, and female). If you are having trouble coping with the loss of a second body to warm your own, I would prescribe at least a weekly session of masturbation (self-sexual satisfaction). This will create more body warmth and usually result in a symptom known as orgasm (this is known to reduce emotional tension).

It reminds me of that Twilight shit... They just want to break up but they don't want a confrontation.

"its not you, its me"

but really its not me, its totally you.

If you love them you do what is best for them.

The chances are there is some truth in what he was saying. He knows himself better than you do. It's likely that these excuses are really a front for something he was holding back--like his real personality.

I've used this kind of breakup before. It was because I was generally unhappy and unwilling to pretend I was happy around someone who--just rubbed me the wrong way. I was telling the truth though. If I was miserable, I'd make my bf miserable.

My mom, who's 57, just broke up with her boyfriend because whenever they'd go out he would oogle and flirt with other women.

The way she explained it to him while they were breaking up was that she "got the impression that he was still searching for the right person."

Some people will go to great lenghts to find the least confrontational words possible, even for someone that deserves the exact opposite. It's all bull****.

Yes it's normal to give bull**** reasons to dump you because they're too much of a coward to explain the real one.

Does it matter what reason?

I mean if you agree or disagree with the reason... you're still dumped.

It's not as if you can say "your reason is a copout" and the guy will say "o you're right. ok we're still dating then".

If anything he's more likely to say "ok fine, i'm really breaking up with you because So-and-so is hotter" or "you bore me".

I know being dumped hurts but... it can always hurt more.

Do you expect your ex to do the Patrcik Batemen break up and say "You're just not important to me"?

I said the same thing to my boyfriend. I love him very much but I thought it would be the best decision. You see.. I've had extreme suicidal thoughts for a while, and I don't know how much longer I can resist acting on them. I know it would literally kill him if I would end up dead, and I want him to live the rest of his life happily and with no worries or regrets. Thats why I thought telling him I wanted to break up because it would be the best for him would be a good decision. He however didn't take it, he demanded reasons. In the end said he'd never leave my side and would help me any way he could. We're still together, and I hope it will stay that way for a long time.

Im sorry if this story didn't help you and was completely off topic, but I just felt like getting that out.

Perhaps he prefers the company of men and is not brave enough to say so. Whatever the reason there is no easy way to end a relationship without some out some one getting the short end of the stick.

Sorry for your loss. Hopefully it will soon turn out better for you.

he's done you a favor

I'm a male most of us hate the confrontation of a break up, thats why we pour out the poor excuses. heres what you have to think better now than later. look at all the single mums that now have to bring up some lossers kids.
The next time you meet someone ask yourself would i like to let my kids spend every seconed weekend with them, if the answers is know walk away simple

Probably a cop out. I know that I have refused to date someone based upon that (they wanted a relationship and my life was bullshit at the time and I didn't want to drag them into it), but I have never gotten into a relationship with someone and then told them that I have to leave them because I would hurt them.

I'd say, he could be serious and have a background or be associated with some people that could be dangerous to you and he has chosen to continue on that path whether than change his ways or pull you into it. On the other hand, it could be a massive cop-out to keep you from getting pissed off that he found another girl, is not interested in you, heard you say something that he didn't like (I want marriage/kids) or upon the prospect of commitment he was like "Oh hell no".

Either way, if he really is living a shitty life, you're better off not dealing with the drama. Otherwise, you just lost what is probably a pretty big douche or a guy that would just become a douche because he feels morally obligated to stay with you.

Most likely a cop out but if this did genuinely run through someone's mind they would most likely never actually go through with it.

I think it's a load of bullshit. It's good that you're single now, it means that you have the chance to find someone better.

As a guy, I have to say that it is a normal reason. Sometimes it is a cop out, a way to create a rift out of nothing at all. However I have seen my fair share of this excuse. Sometimes its earnest sometimes its not, but what you gonna do about it.