Is it normal to be depressed over the adoption thing?

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i have been depressed over the adoption thing for years...... and no i am not adopted or whatsoever... its just that its not fair for mothers who felt all the pain and crap and to just give their babies away for good.

i dont know if its normal for me to feel this way, since its none of my business and im not really adopted. i dont know why i feel this heaviness in my heart every time i read or hear or watch these particular kind of situation... and it doesn't go away for at least a week....

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  • Couman
    10 years ago

    I agree, the whole adoption system seems very inhuman. But I guess it's a natural result of how our culture treats children like property. It would be awful hard to change.

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    • Hoppy1943
      10 years ago

      Im adopted. They took me in at 5. Im 16 now (15yr 11mon)
      Um its not really that bad, the only problem is that you did not come from your parents so you dont have the same traits and such. Thus you dont get along most of the time. Yea my bio mom took drugs instead of me. I want nothing to do with her she doesnt "deserve me" just because she gave birth to me. She is never in trouble anymore and i would enjoy a visit to the one who gave me to this planet. She is very sweet but made the wrong decisions!

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      • Couman
        10 years ago

        I'm not say it doesn't work out OK sometimes. I just don't think the system we've got is really the "least worst" option.

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  • Derpinism
    10 years ago

    yes it is sad, in some countries abortion is illegal or too costly

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    Alright there is a number of reasons the mother gives away a child for adoption. One she is a underage mother who has irresponsible sex and could not afford the child. Two she is a drug addict mother who is not fit to take care of the child and the kid is either taken or she chooses to give it to a better home.

    The mother is a convict and has been arrested when or during the time she had custody of the child and so the kid was put up for adoption if other family member can not care for them.(sometimes in the last case the father is also out of the picture).

    So why exactly are you upset about this? If the mom cant care for the kid she cant care for it. That is all their is too it. Are you really going to force a drug addict mother or give the baby to a mom behind bars. A kid in a prison does not sound like the best eviorment to grow up in.

    Also if the parents know they are giving it up for adoption clearly they have a reason. So I have no idea why you are angry? The fact the mom cares about the child or the idea we do not let kids become homeless when a parent is put in prison but instead send them to an orphanage or foster care.

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  • Aryas
    10 years ago

    Well, if they have to give their babies away, they did something seriously wrong.

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    • Freedom_
      10 years ago

      Or were accused of doing something seriously wrong.

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  • dasugaknows
    9 years ago

    You are absolutely right. And birth mothers do not give up babies for the cause of "good" they give them up because they were in a shitty situation and society is brainwashed to believe that adoption is a "good" thing. Now maybe years ago when abortion was illegal in this country and others that was a different story, but now that isnt so. Adoption agencies make $30,000-$50,000 per baby out the womb and birth mother gets nothing. Also dont kid yourself about helping infertile couples build a family. I was once diagnosed with infertility and i did not go down the path of adoption even though society kept telling me i could always adopt in order to become a mother. No thanks to that because i would not seperate a mother and baby to fufill my need to become a mother. All i have to say is thank god for modern medicine.

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  • sunnymom
    10 years ago

    If you believe in reincarnation, you could probably connect it to a memory or belief that does not belong to this lifetime.

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  • rubber
    10 years ago

    Welcome to consciousness, that usually happens when you start to care for others, it's compassion and love, you're more than fine!

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  • Freedom_
    10 years ago

    Maybe you could volunteer/invest in a career that would allow you to work with families who must deal with such problems.It could be your calling or something.

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