Is it normal to be dating a 15-year-old at age 24?

I've turned 24 last month. she's going to be 16 this year.
I've had two relationships before, both long-distance and they kind of just fizzled out.

I met her through my sister, who is doing community work helping disadvantaged children with studying and schoolwork. we mostly chat on a local online community site.

don't get this wrong, i didnt hit on her. she's the one who picked me and is flirting with me, hard. she keeps making me compliments and asks for my number and things like that and i just play along with it but i know where it'll end.

And yes, she is legal where i live, so that is not an issue (semi-legal till age 16 in that it will be persecuted if she changes her mind afterwards and files a complaint or if her parents don't approve, but like i said she will be 16 this year).

she's also a troubled person, she'd been in an orphanage for a time and i dont think she's especially mature for her age (her first conversation with me was about anime) but i can't really tell. she'd been the kind of girl i'd went for when i was about 14-17 but i'm not especially attracted to her now on a physical level as she's still more of a child physically than a woman. but of course, looks and sexual attraction are not everything. thats not to say she's ugly or anything, she'll propably be super sexy one day and its hard not to be attracted to a girl that shows you so much unrestricted affection.

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Comments ( 27 )
  • Mmmpfh

    Wait a minute. What's so immature about talking about anime? She was probably just trying to link with someone by finding common ground.

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  • REvEnGE

    its more like baby-sitting lol.

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    • LaBooBoo

      Hahaha.!

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    • 12820005

      Lol

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    • Frekkinsammy

      Hahahaa! XD

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  • Avant-Garde

    The way you describe it it sounds like you're not in a "real" relationship, but more confused of where it's all going. I'd say nowhere... It would be best to find someone your own age or wait until she becomes a legal adult before trying to have a "relationship". Another thing, since when is talking about anime a sign of "immaturity". She was probably trying to see what you had in common.

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  • Dad

    I think a 9 year gap is a bit harsh.
    Your conversation will be limited in too many areas.

    You state its not so physical then what is appealing about her exactly? Just the 'unrestricted affection' affection towards you?
    I think you need to take a step back and realize this young girl's idea of 'affection' may not be exactly how you feel. ie Its unlikely she'll move out with you, or obviously go out to any night clubs with you (for at least another 2 years) So the 'affection' is just limited to online chatting, or possibly over the phone.

    You have already announced that her conversations (anime) are not the most exciting topics for you. But due to her age its going to be normally this type of talk in conversation. I hope you like Justin Bieber?!

    Things like going out in the car, will bring her back to that childhood again. She'll probably put her iPod earplugs in and start singing. This to you could be easily seen as offensive, especially if you BOTH haven't even worked out where you are going.

    Your 'role' in this will be extremely limited to immature conversations, and possibly the 'I hate that bitch friend of mine' type of talking. I'm pretty sure you'll get sick of it on day1.

    Leave her to grow up normally with her own age group. As you say, in a few years she may be a beautiful young > woman.

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    • Mexicano9000

      I dont find the topic boring persay :) I just thought its 'normal' for a 15-year old and not something that makes you say 'wow, she is so much more mature than her age'.

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  • Purinsu

    I am also a anime loving girl of a orphanage -gone from it since my 15th- I must admit i was really a kid till 14 then my puberty kinda started -mental-
    i was a very easy girl too you could say i could be taken by anyone but.. no one wanted me so i guess that was a live saver xD

    If you aren't in love with her you shouldn't try anything or more like backing off

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  • alv1592

    Sure it may be legal where you live, but that doesn't mean it's a good thing. You two are at different stages in life. It's okay to be friends but nothing more than that.

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  • ToxicGas

    Weird :) But everybody can love whoever they want to love :)

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  • ihaveaslavefetish

    I've always been into older guys, I don't think it's too weird. Then again, my body looked more like a woman's than a child's early on. Most guys can't tell my age. I really don't think a normal relationship with a 15/16 year old is weird, but I'm biased. I kind of think the situation you're in is weird because you said " i dont think she's especially mature for her age" If she was mature, I'd think it would be okay. If she's still a bit childish...ehh, that's abnormal to me. If you're not too interested, don't play along. A lot of 15/16 year old girls will flirt, we're fucking horny and we want romance.. You should let her flirt with someone her own age and closer to her maturity level(Assuming that you're much more mature than her, considering you're 24.) Ehh, that's just my opinion.

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  • Imsupernormal

    You should totally bang the shit out of her! ;)

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  • con-man

    Hey man you honestly don't think that there's nothing wrong with a 16 year old dating a 24 year old man if that was my sister or daughter man you would be in some deep shit with me do you think it would be ok if you're sister was 16 and was dating a 24 year ild man think about that or maybe you can't handle a grown woman so you gotta go and get you a young troubled girl you sound like a petafile to me goof-ball!

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  • Voray

    tl;dr

    It's statutory rape.

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  • cupcake_wants

    like jail ?

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  • NorthC

    In this case.. As of now. Just look after her.. I wouldn't say reject her because if she is troubled as you say.. Drastic effects will occur.

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  • MatthewHooperLeeds

    I think Jim'll fix it for you - Paedo!

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  • SkullsNBones

    How are people saying that an ADULT dating a CHILD is "ok". It doesn't matter how "mature" she is or whether or not she "looks like a woman". She is SIXTEEN, two thirds of his age!
    She won't have even finished high-school and he's old enough to have graduated college.
    The very idea of this relationship is pedophiliac and disgusting. Ew, ew, ew. If you think this is okay, you need to see a councillor, I'm being serious.

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  • stupidassholeguy

    Beep!Beep!Beep!Beep! That's just my pedofile radar.

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  • newtdup

    wait! whose gonna persecute who? how do you mean that? or did you mean prosecute, as in what happens to a child molester?

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  • Lynxikat

    WAIT, wait, back up a sec.

    You think that her talking about anime is immature?

    FAIL.

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  • It seems like you've already figured out that this is, indeed, a terrible idea.

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  • Austalien

    I think it's best to understand the laws in each country so they can't fuck with you in anyway.

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  • Xxcon

    Hey man you honestly don't think the something is wrong with you wanting to date a 16 year old and you are 24 if that was my sister or daughter it wouldn't be happening! Cause you're ass would be mine that's some petafile type shit ask you're self would you like it if you're sister was 16 and dating a 24 year old man yea i didn't think so!

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  • emilydoll

    I don't care about your laws, that is way sick either way...

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  • jucedaguy

    @OP You spelt paedobear wrong.

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