Is it normal to be confused about your virginity?

Yeah I don't know if I'm a virgin. This is so f*cken complicated its irritating the mother f*cken sh*t out of me. I'm done. My ex and I tried doing it so many times and Im aware of the pain and the results of bleeding all that so at first thats all I could think about so it would stop me from him going all the way. I was trying to find some remedies to not make it hurt that much, or whats the smoothest way to do it. Then I was like okay I just have to suck it up and do it. So the last two times my ex was like I think you're not a virgin because I have stick it in all the way. I'm like I don't think so because I'm not bleeding nor do I feel anything. We planned on going to the doctor to find out if I am or not or Ive heard he can break your hymen for you just so it doesn't hurt that much when I do it. So I was planning on doing those things however I never got to do it cause I felt like it shouldn't be that complicated plus I just didn't have time. I would have loved to lose it to him though because he was my first real boyfriend and hes my best friend. Now that we've broken up (for other reasons not cause of sex) Ive been talking to these other guys and I didn't wanna hook up with them knowing I was still a virgin cause I didn't wanna lose it to them. But its so hard because if I wasn't a virgin I would totally hook up with one of them. So Im so frustrated Im leaving these guys hanging its so annoying! I wish I got it over with my ex and then Id be free. So Im holding back with all these guys figuring out what Im going to. Now last night apparently I had sex. Again, I didn't bleed or felt anything good. And I didn't hold back nothing at all and he seemed satisfied like he wasn't saying he didn't go all the way so Im guessing he did. But Im so confused cause I didn't get the results you're supposed to so am I a virgin or not?! Im so going to the doctor now I have to have a peace of mind with this. I feel like I still am but who the ef knows.