Is it normal to be confused about your feelings for someone?

I don't know if I like him or what but when I'm with this guy I love the vibe, the environment, I just feel good when he's around. I met him at first thinking he's gonna be a good friend, yeah he's hella attractive but I don't like him. Then while partying, I kissed him. Of course going to that party thinking he looks cute and then drinking, my feelings were gonna act. So it was just a kiss, I didn't mind nor did I take it that seriously. If anything, I was like "I got to kiss him!" since he's so damn cute. A few weeks ago, we got to go out and I was happy because he was gonna be there and like I said, his presence brings out this fun vibe. He's just one of those guys who everyone likes. However, after that night he texted me to check up on me how I was doing. I thought it was so sweet but not surprised coming out of him and again, just reading it as if hes a good friend. But we ended up texting that whole week and he was basically hitting on me. This is where I don't know what to do. The whole time knowing him I would be so honored if he hit on me and finally he did. I just stopped myself from going along with it even though I like him but don't like him like that? I like him as a person, and I would be with him but there's something stopping and Im not sure what it is.
Honestly, I think I feel like I don't deserve him or he can do better, somewhere along those lines. This weekend we were about to hook up however, my friend stopped us because she didn't want him to take advantage of me since I wasn't completely sober yet. I really really really really really wanted to hook up with him so bad though! I was ready. Then the next morning we crashed at his place so during the day he tried hooking up with me again but this time I said no. I was sober so I think I saw him as that "good friend" while when I was a little tipsy my feelings about how cute he is came out. SO I don't know which feeling is the right one. I don't wanna get in a relationship with him either because like I said before, I feel like I don't deserve him like that. Sometimes I wanna keep him away as just that "cute friend" and that's all. But it'd be nice to have a fling with him or something. What should I do? Go along with him hitting on me (even though right now I feel like he got over me cause I am one confusing being) or if he tries hitting on me again just treat him as a good friend? I feel like going along with it if he comes to me and hooks up then Im gonna do it.

Voting Results
93% Normal
Based on 29 votes (27 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 5 )
  • Sog

    You say you're confused... but wow I feel sorry for the guy. I can only imagine what he must be thinking while you're putting him through this nightmare.

    It doesn't sound like you've given that part much thought though.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Thatguy777

    I agree with Sog. That poor bastard is probably going crazy with you sending him mixed signals. He obviously likes you. I think you two should go on a regular date with nothing sexual happening afterwards except for maybe a kiss. Get to know him. You sure seem interested so this might be a good idea to figure out exactly what it is you want from him. If you find out that you really only want to be friends with him, tell him that. Don't let him fall for you when you aren't intending on letting things get serious. You don't know how much that could hurt him once you two get closer.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Sensate

    jesus, way to dance on a guy's balls and calling him "friend"

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Terence_the_viking

    OMG too much code must fall over.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Ghost-of-the-Marlboro-Man

    I am not confused about the smooth flavor of Marlboro cigarettes.

    Comment Hidden ( show )