Is it normal to be concerned about the rising cult of "popularity"?

People, especially younger people, seem to be increasingly measuring themselves by false ideas of popularity. This isn't a criticism but perhaps a reflection of so many television shows with "Idol" or "Talent" in the title. The concept of self-worth seems to have mutated into just a popularity contest, with the initial aim not to be "voted off" but the ultimate aim to get more votes than anyone else. People on these shows often develop an emotional back-story to invoke sympathy, and cry on cue while stating that winning this competition is "all they've ever wanted". As opposed to things like health, a strong family life, to do good, honest work, and to meet someone they'll always love.

The internet has allowed the spread of this kind of attention-seeking to the population at large. YouTube in particular, but also Twitter and Facebook. It's all about how many people view us, follow us, retweet us, "like" us. It's a very hollow kind of popularity, though. It doesn't impact on our life beyond that internal scorechart. We don't make a career from it, our lives aren't enriched. It's effectively pointless. You can't buy food with it, you can't donate it to others, you can't do anything with it except to continue seeking it lest your life suddenly seems worthless.

Worse, there are people who simply don't realise that even this fake popularity is earned; that they don't deserve it simply for existing. To realise you are not a hero(ine) in everyone's eyes can be deflating and can damage self-image further.

It even permeates IIN. I see many stories here where people bemoan the lack of attention they receive on Facebook or that they can't understand why every expressed thought doesn't instantly become an internet meme.

The question is: Have middle-aged TV producers failed the youth of both today and tomorrow by leading them up an unseemly blind alley in which what matters most is the aggregated judgement of internet strangers? As opposed to things that really matter, like how we live our life and what difference we make in the short time we have?

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Comments ( 13 )
  • Who_Fan4Life

    I love you.

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  • FocoUS

    The generation before us wanted to be actors when they were children. Actors are famous but at least the kids idolized people with talent. Nowadays kids just want to be a celebrity. They don't need respectful talent they just need to be famous.

    As far as the internal scoreboard, people are obsessed with simple reward systems. You quote a song and get x amount of likes. It comes with the internet.

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  • alv1592

    I can see you put a lot of thought into that, and I have to say I agree. There are much more important things than popularity.

    Also, it's kinda sad that anybody can be famous these days. For example, shows like Jersey Shore are just a bunch of people with drama, and that's what the public likes to see. That's what a lot of reality shows are turning into.

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  • joybird

    I agree 100% and it seems such a shame that this is the teenagers' barometer of self worth.

    I blame it on the professionals who tell the teachers of very young children, not to correct the kids' work - in case it lowers their self esteem! Wise up!!

    Oh, BTW they're not allowed to tell kids to 'wise up' or 'grow up' etc in case that lowers their self esteem!

    In my day, there was discipline where manners were valued and if you didn't behave you were caned. Didn't do my self-esteem any harm coz I'm sure I deserved it.

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  • Ldizzy1234

    I agree with who_fan4life, because I agree with everything you stated. You're totally right. And you do write very well.

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  • Shackleford96

    I agree with you. I wish more people were not ignorant to this modern phenomenon. Also, I would like to say that your story was very well written and I enjoyed reading every word of it. I think you should write a book.

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  • Dizzee

    This is probably one of the best ones I've read, thank you.

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  • Takes two to play that game. Consumers and youth have to demand it too for them to supply it. I say we boycott these shows, and not give Kardashians and Hiltons and what not our attention. Not only does it create what you mentioned (a hollow, ever-unfulfilled, and shallow life), but also issues of respect and such. We can go so deep into it... I only wish more delusional and caught-up people could see what we could see.

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  • AngAnders112

    I agree, but we can't blame producers. They're only giving us what society is craving. Society is making these competition shows, and the Kardashian's and Hilton's family. I don't really blame the producers; they just want a quick buck like everyone else.

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  • 41ph4m413

    the only people who have a problem with popularity are the ones that dont have any

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    • Not strictly true.

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      • 41ph4m413

        are you popular?

        didnt think so

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        • A bit too popular for my liking. Both on this site and in real life.

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