Is it normal to be closer with your boyfriend after this

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The other day after 15 months of being together my boyfriend & I had oral sex.
Before that we never really talked to each other about our family or really in depth about how we felt about certain things.
After we had done all that stuff we just laid there & he told me about his family & about how many uncles he had & I told him about my dad who I hadn't seen in 2 years & my mum's abusive ex.
Is it normal to suddenly be so open with each other after doing stuff like that?

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  • TerryVie
    11 years ago

    hm. I'd guess it is.
    But at the same time it seems strange you never talked about any of this in the 15 month you've been together.

    Don't get me wrong, but the stuff you mentioned there seems like things i'd consider for casual talk with my partner a LOT earlier than well after a year.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    you're wondering if it's normal to be open with someone you're having sex with?

    you're letting him see, touch, and taste your most intimate flesh... and you wonder if it's normal that you open your heart to him as well?

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  • AssBurgers
    11 years ago

    Not normal. Firstly, you talk about this stuff earlier than 15 months in.

    But more importantly, family issues shouldn't be spoken about before, during or after sexy time. That's just a no no.

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  • NoraBaker
    11 years ago

    When I was 16, this kid, Ronnie, would go to my house after school with the sole purpose of going down on me. We never talked about anything like that. Or anything, for that matter. Haha.

    But it's perfectly normal to feel more connected to your partner after an intimate act.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    I mean, of course it's normal. Intimite things like that produce bonding hormones.

    But I'm definitely surprised you haven't talked about this sooner. My partner and I have been together almost 11 months now and we've discussed a lot of things about our families and our lives and shit.

    I don't know if this means I open up too fast or if you guys open up hella slow.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    I guess so. I mean it's an intimate act, isn't it? Maybe not as much for a man but certainly for a woman to let a man down there. I know it's been a big deal for some people I've been with. And intimacy isn't just physical.

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