Is it normal to be certain of what you want?

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I'm talking romantically speaking.

Some people like to "try out" many people until they get the right person (if they're lucky). I don't feel right doing that. I feel like i know what type of person i like and only give it a shot when i can see a real future with that person in the long run.

I'm not talking about being picky like some people who have an immaginary idea of a person in their mind, down to the very detail (hair, etc...) I mean personality wise. I think there are caracteristics in peoples personalities that can be read and if you know how to read them it could save you the trouble of having to go down that path.

I see people dating just to date, even though they don't seem that interested in the person they're dating (well, not as much as they could be), they also don't seem to even try to see if that person is right for them before they choose to date them. As if anyone will do.

is it normal to be specific on who you want to share yourself with and not care about the time needed to find that someone? Or do you believe that you can get feelings for anyone, no matter who it is, so there is no need to pick an choose?

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    10 years ago

    Well I know exactly what I want in a women and I know which one's I'm not going to marry etc. But that doesn't mean I can't date a whole bunch of other women just to have fun and see what else is out there. Try before you buy.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Haha fair enough. I still wouldn't be able to but i guess that's just me lol

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      • squeallikeasacofpigs
        10 years ago

        Think about all the sex mann!!!

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  • GuessWho
    10 years ago

    Yes.
    I agree with this (OP) 100%

    I don't even want to date someone who isn't right for me.
    I am indeed specific on who you want to share myself with and don't care about the time needed to find that someone.

    I actually get annoyed with people that date someone who isn't right for them for the sake of dating, and somehow expect that things will change and it'll work out.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Good to know i'm not alone on this.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    But how would you truly know what sort of personality they have (without pigeon-holing them based on first impressions and assumptions coming from bias schemas) if you avoid dating them? I thought the purpose of dating was to get to know a person better, to see if there's some chemistry there.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I completely agree with what you said and am aware that that is what i am doing but i value first impressions and the assumptions people make on others (only if those assumptions are made in a seemingly valid way- the more valid, the less chance they are wrong)In the end, they could be wrong but they came from somewhere, something set off that assumption in your head (the persons body language, etc..)and i don't think they should be pushed aside completely just because it's not fair/concrete.

      I'm not saying dating is wrong. I think if you find a spark with someone, you should hang out with them and if you enjoy their company, continue doing so. I just don't think you should use dating as a trial, like: you're no good, NEXT! not you either.. NEXT!...

      I just think you should put some thought into who you choose to date (see if they make you feel good, if they make you laugh) Instead of just dating anyone with hopes that they'll fit your requirments and then dumping them when they don't.

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      • GuessWho
        10 years ago

        ^ This.

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