Is it normal to be called ugly because of my nose even in my 20s?

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I'm in college & I have a long, big, crooked nose that resembles a witch's nose. I'm not exaggerating either, just last week this so-called friend turned to me and said "You have a big nose. You look like a witch. How do you deal with it?" without joking. I dress nicely and I'm hygienic, so people compliment my appearance sometimes. I think I look attractive from the front, but my side profile is really bad. For example I was walking down the street and some strangers pointed out my nose and said "Wow, her nose... Witch!" is it normal to feel like crap when I hear this and avoid the world? I mean, I try to live my life normally but at least once a week I'm called ugly by a complete stranger, or worse, a friend. I thought I outgrew this kind of bullying since I'm in college, but people still comment on it even now that I'm in my 20s. I don't know how to deal with it. The worst part is that when I try to talk to people about it they just dismiss it. It's gotten to the point where I don't even leave the house because I just want to avoid being made fun of by strangers... Is this how the rest of my life is going to be?? I can't even afford plastic surgery so I'm going to be stuck looking deformed for a long time.

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago | pl

    Cruelty has no age limit.

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    • MilleBornes
      11 years ago

      It stays away around age 33. unless that person is just conditioned to be cruel (i.e. racist) I've never met a cruel 33 year old.

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      • MilleBornes
        11 years ago

        and when you're conditioned, it's not considered cruel to that person. just is.

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  • DADNSCAL
    11 years ago

    You need a better friend, and there will always be ignorant people. The important thing is how you feel about yourself. If you can't accept it, save your money for surgery.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    11 years ago

    People always have something to say. Even people that are actually quite attractive are said to be ugly by at least one person, I'm sure. But when they say something nasty like; 'You're ugly!!', or 'You have a witch nose!!' to your face..., or even if you hear it from a distance.. fuck 'em! Nobody is perfect. And people tend to exaggerate appearances of those that they don't find attractive anyway, so your nose is probably not as bad as they make it out to be, or as bad as you think it is. They're just being assholes.

    Don't be ashamed of your nose. If you were to change it for another nose, you might not be as beautiful as you probably already are.

    And if your friend hurt your feelings when they made that comment about your nose, I think you should be upfront with them about that. I wouldn't want a friend who puts me down like that.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    What the hell? Where do you live? There are hella uglier people out there that no one ever says jack to. Assholes.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    thats horrible.

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  • bulbousnasaltip
    7 years ago

    Facial attractiveness is of utmost importance for almost everything in life. Because it is scientifically proved that facial beauty is measureable, a symmetric face along with a small petite nose will always considered attractive.

    This fact cannot be dismissed.

    Plastic surgeons who are in training are told why a bulbous/crooked/deformed nose has the ability to literally destroy a whole face. Rhinoplasty is an option but there are limits (e.g. thick nasal skin).

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    Rude swine! It's not normal at all. Try to ignore them or transfer to another college if you can.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Don't run to plastic surgery I'm sure your a very beautiful girl who's got a lot of potential. Don't be like everyone else you were blessed with what you've got, so go past others and work it on your own. Look at Barbra Streisand in her 20's she was gorgeous and she had a big nose. Also if she ever had a nose job, she would have changed and destroyed the way her beautiful voice sounds. Don't let other pressure you into horrible thing's such as that. Your than putting yourself at risk of becoming addicted to plastic surgery and doing too much.

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  • lufa
    11 years ago

    A nosejob would cost around $5,000 more or less. It's not that much money, you could easily earn it in a summer job.

    If your nose is that bad that people point it out, then just get it fixed rather than suffer over it for years and years, not living your life to the fullest and being depressed.

    People are cruel, but we live in a very superficial age now, beauty is the 'norm' which makes everyone look even uglier than they would otherwise.

    Either people change, or you change or grow a thicker skin. If I had that issue, I'd just get it fixed so people could not get away with thinking they're better than me because of some flaw due to my bad genetics/parents.

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    • MilleBornes
      11 years ago

      yea, no. getting it "fixed" when it's not broken because of someone else saying o is exactly what them being better than you proves. that's how it's proved. So, if you're short get extensions , if you're white, be black. If you're bald get hair implants but only purple because that's what everyone likes now? ---by all that I mean, if you were made fun of. basically, you would change your whole life for other people Then who are you?

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      • lufa
        11 years ago

        So people born with cleft palate or horribly disfigured or conjoined twins should not get surgery to look normal?

        Women should stop wearing makeup, men should stop exercising and let themselves go/becoming obese so as 'not to change your life for others'?

        But what if you are doing it for yourself-to have a symmetrical face because you were born unsymmetric?

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        • MilleBornes
          11 years ago

          Someone stated here, she, as well as others may be over exaggerating the situation. Everyone isn't the same. Some men have 6 in some 8., my nose is wide, my friends is thin. I'm6 5'5" maybe 4, ALL my friends are taller. Should I hate myself for them making fun of me? Obviously on a case by case situation, it could be nice snd that's actually the point But simply, SIMPLY, because you're being made fun of?

          Obesity......Fucking Exercise. I've gained weight 3 times and lost it every time. Lipo is lazy shit. doesn't even relate here

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          • lufa
            11 years ago

            She's not over-exaggerating when on a weekly basis people call her a witch and make references to her nose. It's clearly an issue and not something she's imagining.

            You obviously didn't get my point. Physical perfection is rare in people, however most people are considered 'ordinary' and get by in life without much trouble.

            Some people stand out because they fall outside of that norm, such as having facial or physical disfigurements as I already mentioned. If medical science can fix their problems why not do it?

            Most people exercise not so much for health but for how they physically appear to themselves and others. It seems you're arguing for people to rebel against conformity, yet most people do try to conform in one way or another.

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            • MilleBornes
              11 years ago

              No. I agree when it's needed. Seems as though everyone decides these things way too quickly however. I would first tell people to accept themselves first. And then, if you feel the need for change it's YOUR choice not bully Brenda's

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    • rezida
      9 years ago

      So because of the cruelty of the world she should change herself? That's some bullsh*. She obviously loves herself and wants to love herself just the way she is and needed a reminder that there are some kind people in the world that don't mind her "big nose". She shouldn't change, the fucked up society should. It feels like there is less and less humanity left... we are humans, we shouldn't look like barbiedolls or like eachother to be accepted.
      My advice to you (the girl with the real, unique nose) is to surrround yourself with people that lift you up and not bring you down. Goodluck!

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  • Goomats
    11 years ago

    People are just trying to bring you down. I bet you're pretty and that's why they are focusing on your big nose in spite. My mom hates my nose and always finds ways to insult it...I just ignore her because I've never had a man act like he hated my nose. Go on with life. Ignore haters.

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  • KaffeInjection
    11 years ago

    Sure as heck is no friend... A real friend would not run around and make fun of you, specially about something you might be worried about.. (In this case) your nose, i've seen people with Giant-Kike noses myself and i have to admit it looks pretty disgusting, but what can you do about it.... You need to let go of it and avoid the assholes who stand in your way, if ignoring them is what it takes then do it.

    Been there myself, but it was all about height.. (I'm kind of a shorty)... Whats even funnier must have been the fact that he was FAT & Overweight.... Literally obese, and yet he kept on (If not everyday) to somehow "Show" how he was taller than me.

    Well fuck the dirtballs who have to comment on everything, not worth your time. The next time someone asks you about your nose, scare.. The.. Living crap out of them.

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  • RougeTheBat
    11 years ago

    Your Beautiful,you and your big nose!Embrace it!Also i bet your friend wouldn't like it if you pointed out her flaws would she? Everyone has them including her.

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  • MilleBornes
    11 years ago

    well, it's your ugly nose, so fuck em. This is how short people are supposed to feel. I say supposed because I'm relatively short and have been made fun of most to all of this life, so far. My own self confidence never let me feel down. Idk how

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  • bootynopubes
    11 years ago

    We as human will always judge and be judged by eachother

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  • RoseIsabella
    11 years ago

    If it makes you feel any better I have very full lips and people used to call me N@gger Lips when I was a kid. I don't say the word out of respect for the brothas and sistas and also because I admire African American beauty a lot for obvious reasons. My father is like half German and everyone on that side of the family has the same lips and facial features as me.

    Maybe your nose is kind of an ethnic thing that you inherited. Is there someone in your family with the same nose that you could talk to about your feelings? Well I hope it gets better for you.

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  • iintolovethissite
    11 years ago

    Omg it's the wicked witch of the west!!!! Fuck I thought Dorothy killed you... Oh wait you just have. Big ugg nose sorry :)

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