Is it normal to be called a thot?

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It has always been the same problem.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now. There's a problem though, to him, I have a problem of attracting attention.

When we first met, I was all about looking good. I always had my hair done and I always did my makeup. I loved to have girls compliment me and ask me what I was wearing on my face, though will I say, my boyfriend has a whole different perspective on this. He expressed how he didn't want me to wear makeup or wear revealing clothes because it attracts a lot of attention. (this all happened a few months ago.) Since then we didn't have any problems regarding the issue. I stopped wearing makeup, I stopped doing my hair, and I stopped wearing revealing clothing. Fast forward to this past week, I have been filling in my eyebrows and occasionally doing my hair. My boyfriend saw this and got extremely frustrated, asking for an explanation to why I do it. An explanation to why I am wearing makeup to a place where there are a bunch of guys and he can't watch me, and why I wore makeup in the past. He also says that those who are confident don't need or want to wear makeup. If I tell him I am confident he then asks me- "then why do you wear it?". I really don't know what to do. He says I don't understand him at all, and when I told him I would stop he said that doesn't help.

If anyone could give some advice I would appreciate it

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  • LornaMae
    5 years ago | pl

    It's that classic-retarded-straight-male paradox (apologies in advance to those of you who don't fit this title/description). Get a hot girlfriend because she attracts attention, then annihilate her efforts to keep her herself attractive, make her become unattractive to others, and then tell her he doesn't want her anymore because she let herself go.

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    • nikkiclaire
      5 years ago

      😂

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    He sounds controlling. You should be able to do whatever to your looks without him getting upset you get attention. You shouldn’t have to explain why you do your makeup and hair. If it makes you happy someone who’s suppost to support you shouldn’t bring you down. He should of known he was getting with someone who enjoys taking the time to do cosmetics. If he’s trying to tell you what to do kick him to the curb he doesn’t own you.

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  • Tealights
    5 years ago

    He's controlling. Don't give up who you are, and end the relationship.

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  • jethro
    5 years ago

    I think that you need a new boyfriend. This one is a turd.

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  • drat
    5 years ago

    Those who are confident don’t tell others what they can’t wear. Doesn’t he do anything with his own appearance, or is he a fat pimply neckbeard?

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  • nikkiclaire
    5 years ago

    My advice is, he is an insecure, controlling, jealous, loser who may go nuts and beat you one day. Get out now while you can.

    No, I am not being overly dramatic. These types of men are nuts.

    If he calls you a Thot, all the more reason to bounce.

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  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    Urgh!

    I've never found women who use very obvious makeup attractive. Seeing a woman like that leads me to assume she's very insecure about how she looks, and probably more interested in the outward appearance of people rather than who they truly are.

    However, the history you outline makes me think there's something else going on with your boyfriend, and he's the one who's very insecure. I suspect he'd probably be happiest if you wore a paper bag over your head, or at least never washed your hair or your face, and always wore baggy clothes that completely covered you.

    The definition of "thot" seems to be pretty fluid, but it's pretty clear that it's an insult in this case. Do you really want to be with a guy who ever thinks of you as a whore?

    You have the right to dress and use whatever makeup you choose. You also have the right to interact with people - including guys - without him monitoring your every move. Relationships always involve compromises and negotiation over lots of things, but if how you prefer to present yourself to the world causes him to look down on you, and he doesn't trust you to talk to other guys when he's not there, then I think you should be asking yourself just how much he respects you as a person.

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  • Pocket
    5 years ago

    He's trying to control you. Go find a new boyfriend who accept you for who you are

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  • paracetamol
    5 years ago

    I used to think "thot" was short for thought before i googled it just now.

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