Is it normal to be brave telling a same-sex crush that you like him?

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I probably believe there are question similar to this I hope you wouldn't mind answering and also reading it - kind of TLDR. BTW I'm 21 years old and bisexual (more leaned Gay). Thanks for reading, answering and giving your poll - really appreciate it. :-)

I have a crush on a college guy that I met 6 months ago. I knew from that point I realized that I had infatuation, lust and fantasies about him. Even during my Christmas break abroad, I tried suppressing my feelings of him but it weren't to avail. I probably guess he knows my feelings about him through my stupid moves that I made on him - even he gave me that flirting signal when we first met.

He's 100% straight, and I'll never intend to go any further of our friendship between me and him, nor even attempt to change him for who he is. I know that I will never going to have him as a true fact. Maybe there are ladies before me who told him about their likes perhaps? I know he had and currently has a troubled life (like all of us are) as he told me of what he went through. I wouldn't mind giving him an emotional support system if he needed to, just to have a company by his side. We both have different personalities that are incompatible (I guess), I'm more into languages/culture/extensive travelling e.g backpacking/TCA (Third cultured adult) while he's into anime manga/games/metal music

I feel the need to tell him, but I don't know how or when, giving it a right time to do so. A part of me having that courage/bravery to tell him simple straight forward but another just don't filled with fear. I just need to let it off my chest and move on with my life - I'd probably expect that I'll get rejected anyways. Even thinking of him disrupts my studies at times. My thoughts are to tell him when I finish with my studies this year end, as I start to travel around South East Asia-India in 2016.

Now, I try to avoid him when I see him in class (as he is on his phone god knows what he's doing) and focus more on the books whenever I see him. We've been talking less lately since he has his things going on, while I have mine - having that advantage to focus on the books and lectures. Though he talks to me at times, I let my mind know to keep my response short and not making any stupid moves.

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  • Incomplet
    9 years ago

    He's 100% straight and you're a guy.

    Yeah, this is going to work out well. In the best case scenario he'll be flattered (note: you can flatter him in ways other than confessing your feelings). In the worst case scenario you'll lose your friendship with him.

    Want to risk it?

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  • Goomats
    9 years ago

    This will make your friendship awkward. Don't say anything.

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  • VinnyB
    9 years ago

    The only difference between gay and straight relationships is the number of penises and vaginas involved. As such, I will give you the same advice that I would give a straight man trying to be friends with a girl because he is really into her, and wants to be more than friends, but she has no interest in him what so ever.

    Run. You are wasting your time. Nothing is going to happen, ever. You are going to get hurt and prolong your pain. You are going to miss out on opportunities for a real relationship with someone who might actually care because you are wasting your time chasing a fantasy.

    Just remove yourself from the situation. That might suck in the short term, but you will be much happier in the long term.

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  • max_rg
    9 years ago

    if he is 100% straight and you know it, better be friends with him by not confessing because you will turn the friendship into something awkward and he will have a hard time spending time with you. even if he is okay with you confessing your feelings towards him,and he support you being gay,its you who will hurt even more knowing u have no chance with him while he is being nice and show so much care towards you as a friend. because you will take it as something sweet,not friendly gestures

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Sounds more foolish and self indulgent than brave.

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