Is it normal to be be scared of relationships?

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I have lost many girls to this same problem.

I would go up and meet them all the time and talk, kiss, fuck etc.

Then, one day they'll want me to meet at their house or meet me at the area I live at, this is where the I screw up. I will get all anxious and make up excuses to not meet and then I start avoiding phone calls etc, contact will stop entirely, never to see them again.

I don't understand why I always end up getting scared and backing off. Now, one of the girls this happened to is in a relationship with another guy and has a baby and I feel useless and depressed.

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  • LovelyMay
    10 years ago

    Whoever said you even had to be in a relationship?! Try taking a break. Or be single for once.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    If you're not ready you're not ready. You can't force yourself and obviously no one else can force you. If you are deeply disturbed by the matter you could see a mental health professional, take a break from dating all together and try to figure out why you're having this issue.

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  • Heyjj
    10 years ago

    You're just not ready to date or be in a relationship so don't try to. I believe one day when you meet the right person you'll have no problem at all and it will all be good! :) so don't sorry you just haven't met the right one.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Rule 1. Don't listen to females about being male, lol.

    No it's not normal and it appears you suffer from low self worth issues. You're afraid that these females will reject you after they really get to know you and then you'll get your heart broken from being vulnerable. It's easy flirting with girls and getting laid. It's a whole different story to be in a real relationship with them and being in love/vulnerable/exposed. There's 'no where' to hide. They will see who you really are and decide if you're a worthy mate. Since you yourself don't really value yourself much you already feel they'll dump you so you save yourself the heartache and drop them before you get too involved.

    Nobody wants a broken heart.

    You probably don't have a great job or anything really to be proud of yet which is probably the reason why you're down on yourself.

    Girls like a guy who's got something going on and can be a good provider. Everybody knows this so you should start making money so you can feel good about yourself and find a great gal to be with.

    If you don't really value yourself and your own time then obviously you feel girls won't either so it's only a matter of time before she dumps you for another guy and that hurts.
    That's at least how it is in your own mind.

    I'd also say to you, grow up:

    Stop doing the 'hit and run' on girls.
    Don't seduce, flirt, kiss and fuck a girl you don't plan on sticking around for.
    You're just hurting them and weakening yourself.
    You're making them get bent out of shape and not want to trust guys because you just played them.
    They carry that into their next relationship messing it up.
    You're also just wasting your time, energy and taking risks of STDs and pregnancies.

    Stop screwing up people's lives like a little boy.
    You're not even happy screwing random girls which is why you've posted here.

    Become a man and find a great gal to be a great guy for and actually be happy and build a life together.
    You will grow and become a better man for it.

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