Is it normal to be attractive , popular , and shy ?

Aww
Try to repined by asking them question get them talking
See if you have anything in common
It good to admit your fears :)

I think there is a contradiction somewhat between being popular and shy...maybe you mean you are initially shy but then you warm up to people..if you were alwys shy you would not be popular unless you are so drop dead sexy that the other person is literally willing to kill themselves to get to knpw you and that is rare...not that you are not good looking but that on this planet there are other good looking people that are easier to get to know...shy comes acrosee like you are not interested in them and so they think it is a waste of time to pursue you...there is nothing wrong with just telling people you are a little shy and that you enjoyed their company....

Im going to try everything you guys said . thanks .

blah i said totally a lot in that last post... such a surfer chick sometimes.

also with a lot of chicks you can straight up say, "sorry i'm kinda shy' and that'll totally come across as endearing. Women like to be nurturing, a lot of them will totally help you out with the conversation just becuse we're caring. \

If you give us a heads up so we know why you're quiet, we won't feel insecure and will put in a little extra effort to keep the conversation going. Then it's up to you to open up a little.

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oooh yeah you seem like such a stud!

Bonus! the looks get you the initial attention. So now just ask questions.

Maybe you've tried this but after you make your quick reply ask a related question. Try to notice something about her, like maybe she has a band t-shirt on, ask her about it. If she's a friend of a friend ask her how she knows your other friend. If you're in school together ask her about a class you might share together etc...(not fasion though like 'nice prada shoes!' cause then she might think you're gay.) Show interest in the other person.

Also don't be afraid to talk about yourself. If sombody asks you a question they want to know about you. You're not going to bore them or seem too into yourself. You need to have a certain amount of openness in what you're willing to share (within reason) to have a good conversation. Especially with a girl!

Once you start elaborating on yourself they might quip in with something related like "oh that's like this time I..." then you can listen to them for a while and quip in with a point of your own and voila... You have a conversation!

Just try it. If you think you've said something stupid just aknowledge it and make a joke about it. Humour also livens up a conversation.

I'm good looking too.

Everywhere I go, women stare at me.

It can makes you incredibly self concious.

the key is to discipline yourself to constantly redirect your attention outward and onto anything other than yourself. try to forget yourself as it were and get lost in stuff in the outside world.

I struggled with this for years and this was one of the big insights I had.

Any mirrors you have in your house, put them where you wont see them unless your shaving or brushing your hair.

try to forget that you look so damn good looking.

Another thing that might make you feel more comfortable is to dress in ultra mundane clothing. Getting too fashionable just makes you an even bigger target for attention.

Ultimately you will have to face the reality and get comfortable being admired.

Well sorry to the bearer of bad news as a guy, but I am exactly the same as you, and would probably be described as good looking and I have exactly the same problem.

And it doesnt go away, I imagine you can work at it and mayby that will help, I never really gave a shit one way or another since I never thought I would live as long as I have, but if you just ignore it thinking you will "eventually" come out of your shell, then you wont and the older you get the more awkward the exchanges will be, especially with females. I know the feeling you are talking about with the short responses and freezing or even awkwardly answering. Good luck, wish I could give you better advice.

Yeah I used to be the same way. Just gotta be comfortable woth yourself

I was much the same way when I was younger. Especially with attractive girls. As time goes by, you will get over it. I don't really have the greatest advice in the world, all I can say is relax and don't put to much pressure on yourself.