Is it normal to be attracted to my ex boyfriend ?

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So first of all,i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years but we have a very big problem that we never solved...we don't have sex. He always felt uneasy and he had no confidence so he never really made me feel attractive.When i tried to have sex with him i was feeling just as awkward . At some point in the relationship he wouldn't show any sign of attraction, which hurted me so much that i convinced myself not to care if i have sex or not. I thought this would go away with time and desire would come back...it didn't. I can't get sexually excited with him anymore. But he's still that sweet caring lovely men. It's breaking me apart.
So recently, i've hanged out with my ex...we always had that chemistry between us. He was my first love but he broke my heart terribly 3 years ago. I went to hes place he started getting close to me, trying to cuddle, kiss me and all...but i pushed him back EVERY time he did it. The thing is, deep inside i knew i wanted to be close to him so bad. I was attracted to him way too much. I held everything back for my current boyfriend...who don't deserve that. I didn't cheat on my boyfriend..but i wonder why i had such strong feeling for my ex. I feel terrible about my own feeling, i know this could arm our relationship. Is it normal that i was attracted to him like that ?
Sorry for the long story.

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  • PapzBSlim
    11 years ago

    That is your ex so of course you will be attracted to them or think they are attractive. I do not understand why you put yourself in that position to hang out with your ex. Does your current boyfriend know about this? If you can't even tell him about this, it is almost like cheating, in my opinion(not fact). You either need to end this current relationship and give your old one another chance at it or you need to talk to your current lover about the sexual tension or lack of. Is he a virgin? Is he insecure about his size? Try and fix this relationship before giving up. If you tried and not succeeded, you can move on because I do not think it is worth it if sex is necessary to you in a relationship. Do not be ashamed, I think sex is necessary in a relationship unless I am willing to wait because she is a virgin.

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  • whatisthat
    11 years ago

    Cheating isn't right, and I'd be pretty pissed off at any of my exes for trying to get me to do it, but it is completely normal to be attracted to your ex even when you're in a completely satisfying sexual relationship. You probably never lose all of the connections your brain has made about people you've fallen in love with.

    That being said, it sounds like you're in a really agonizing situation -- I think my advice would be to talk to your boyfriend about how it makes you feel, because it's completely normal as well for you to be frustrated with the situation. I'd consider exiting the relationship if you feel as if you can't be satisfied with it in a way that you need to be.

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