Is it normal to be attracted to girls yet enjoy sex with guys?

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I'm 18 and have never liked a guy. Ever. I find girls attractive and masturbate over them, over the thought of their bodies and even liked my best friend, but she never knew about it.

I know I'm not bi but despite not finding them attractive, I love sex with guys. I wouldn't want to be fingered or use a dildo because I love it when a guy finishes off in me and if he pulls out I feel desperately disappointed.I orgasm with a guy but if I look at him during sex I get turned off. I usually look to the side or away.

Another thing is, I really want to have a proper family, like settle down and that but I know I will never be attracted to him and he will merely be a friend with benefits as my husband. I would really love kids too, but I wouldn't want to have kids in a lesbian relationship. I think that would make the child a subject for bullying and I wouldn't purposely bring kids into a world who wouldn't accept them.

Am I totally screwed up?

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  • PumpkinKate
    12 years ago

    You're not screwed up but you should try to accept your sexual preferences if it's bothering you. You can't help what you like.

    "I will NEVER be attracted to men"
    "I wouldn't want kids in a lesbian relationship"
    "I wouldn't want to be fingered or use a dildo"

    Not to sound too snarky, but... you want to have your cake and eat it, too? From what you've listed the only possible solution I can imagine is if you dated a transgender woman (born male) who shows herself to the public as a man, to you as a woman, can sire children, and has a fully functional penis.

    You're more likely going to have to make some compromises or explore around with your sexuality to find out IF these things are true in all cases. You may very well find a guy you're emotionally and sexually drawn to. You may very well find a woman that makes you feel amazing with her fingers / toys / tongue (trust me on this one, it's not that rare). And when you're ready for kids... hopefully you'll have come to realize by then that there is nothing more amazing and wonderful and you'll have the confidence(!!!) to be a great mom, regardless of if you're with another woman or not. The world is already vastly more accepting of lesbian parents, and even then WHO CARES? This is one of the most life-changing and amazing experiences one can have. I'd argue more for that, but I'm willing to wager you'll come to realize it when you're ready for kids.

    You're young. You've got a ton of time ahead of you to figure things out and develop sexually and emotionally :) No rush! You're normal.

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