Is it normal to be ashamed of my parents

Don't let a good school turn you into a snob. From experience I can tell you that when you are of no further use to those people they will dump you like a hot coal. In the meantime you will be popular if you are clever - in order to help them achieve good results. But if you are ever ill or off school for any reason, they will not phone you or worry how you are, as you will be of no use to them.

Then you will realise who truly loves you and who wants to help you most... your parents! The very ones you think you need to be ashamed of.

Personally, I would be ashamed if I thought I was marrying into an idiotic family who thought my parents were in any way 'lower' than them. Your parents have achieved a great deal considering they don't speak English!!

One thing I will tell you is - if anyone in your 'elite' school finds out that you are ashamed of your parents they will use it against you big time!! When you are open and honest about your background, it is not a mystery and others take it for granted and don't make an issue of it. Whatever you do, you must never share these thoughts, in a secret, with the shallow friends you have!

I come from a poor background and most people I deal with were born with greater privilege. I feel luckier than them, though, because I've been able to live both sides of the coin and have perspectives they'll never be able to understand.

Your parents don't sound rich but do sound like they're expending a lot of their free money to give you the opportunity of going to this school. I would never have got anything like that from my parents and whatever I had, I've had to get for myself (something else which I see as a good thing now). But, in your case, you're very lucky to have two people care about you this much. Try not to hurt them.

It's normal to a extent. But when it comes down to it, you can't change the fact that they are your family and eventually your lies will catch up to you.

That's horrible, they are a part of who you are.

Look as adolescents we all rebel from our parents. Today young people have been force fed commercial values and not human values. I know that your peers are more materialistic and think that life is a popularity contest. You may never change how they see you or your parents so my advice is to love and respect the 2 parents that you have been blessed with. Who have sacrificed to get you an opportunity to go to a upscale school. Be proud that you have parents that love you for just being you. If the person you marry loves you for you then the rest will be accepted with open arms.

Your parents aren't perfect, they may not be cultured or rich. But they are working hard to provide you with a life I'm sure they never had. Instead of being ashamed of them praise them for their sacrifices. Be grateful that they love you enough to want u to have the best. It's normal to be ashamed sometimes but don't hide you family from the World. In your darkest hour they will be all you have.

This Is horrible yoo need too respect them more ! So what if they drive a van at least they are not smug rich cunts.... They actually seem down too earth and really nice and I think yoo need too be proud of that x

You sound like a snotty little snob. One day your dad won't be around and you may just find yourself hating yourself

Honestly it's very normal to be ashamed by your parents, my parents are stiff lipped bastards with literally no friends of their own because of how hard it is to even hold a conversation with them they are grouches and do not endorse any recreational drug using/selling which is how i make my livelihood, due to the fact that they are so hard headed and obviously know nothing of the world today I was actually emancipated as a minor (17) close enough.. and have been on my own since senior year so I can be free to make money, party every night, and not be forced to have a job, i also have nice periods of where a girl ill talk to usually still in high school.. nice and tight, usually in yoga's will spend a week or so at my house, telling the rents shes at her gfs ;) good stuff, now tell me.. who wouldn't be completely disgusted and ashamed at parents who try to keep me from shining ? anyone who agrees with them i certainly never want to meet.

This is normal. I partially feel the same way about my parents. It is actually one of the main reason why I don't want to date or invite people over. A lot of people on here are probably going to call you a crook for feeling embarrassed by your parents but I understand where you are coming from. I think that as you grow up more your parents money doesn't matter since you'll be on your own. My best advice would be to just wait it out, that's what I'm doing. Although, I should mention that I love my parents, as I'm sure you do, I just feel ashamed by the lot I was given in life. But hey, it will get better.

Reading this story made kind of sad. Recently I watched a documentary film about the works of artist Vik Muniz, whose humble origins he says he's never been ashamed of; and, read about Albert Camus' feeling of shame of the shame he felt that his mother was a cleaner, when he was a young boy and attended school with wealthier children. When I saw those two examples it just reinforced how proud I am of mine and how blessed I am to have had and still have those two beautiful people in my life. I hope sometime you can appreciate your parents for what they are and not be ashamed of them for not being who you want them to be.

You shouldn't be ashamed of them for that.