Is it normal to be asexual?

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I don't consider myself to ever be in a relationship with a male or female. Although I'm a tomboy, guys find me attractive, and when a guy tells me that they like me, I'm not really flattered. I keep them in the friend zone, basically. I have a certain type, so I must be attracted to them, but cant see myself in a relationship with males. SAME WITH GIRLS. But when i see an attractive girl, my body language is the complete opposite. I get really nervous around a girl, unless I can be myself around them (and that's usually when they are interested in me) I'm sorry if this makes no sense xD For example, I feel awkward around guys and show no interest (im also shy if thats why) & with girls, It can get affectionate really quick, from her writing cute things on my hand, to sitting on my lap for a few minutes in class. I just cant see myself with a girl though!

Asexual 11
Bi-curious 17
Lesbian 15
Confused 25
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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    You sound bi-curious.

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  • Lastchild725
    11 years ago

    You're either trolling, or you don't know what Asexual means.

    Asexual reproduction is a mode of reproduction by which offspring arise from a single parent, and inherit the genes of that parent only; it is reproduction which does not involve meiosis, ploidy reduction, or fertilization. The offspring will be exact genetic copies of the parent. A more stringent definition is agamogenesis which is reproduction without the fusion of gametes. Asexual reproduction is the primary form of reproduction for single-celled organisms such as the archaea, bacteria, and protists. Many plants and fungi reproduce asexually as well.

    To be attracted to both men and women, is bisexuality.

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    • VioletTrees
      11 years ago

      Asexuality is also a valid kind of sexual orientation.

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    • Thewomanizer
      11 years ago

      actually you are correct in terms of Biology means but according to this post the person is NOT asking what is asexuality, they are asking for an opinion on what may be their sexuality. Asexual people in society are people who have no desire for intercourse with either sex ( they are not attracted to men or women)However they still can develop feelings but they choose not to act on them and also find sex disgusting. So I think that the OP has low libido and is attracted to guys but not girls as OP says that they couldn't see themselves with a girl. So there you go!

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      • Homewreckker
        11 years ago

        XD Exactly what I was trying to mean. I find both genders attractive, but I would never want to make an emotional connection with either one. Ive been talking to this guy for 2 years now (hes 19, so he wants to wait till im 18 to be official (17), he's so cuute but I cant be true to myself or him when we bring up being together. Same situation happened when this girl and I texted for a few months, I said no when she asked if I'm bisexual. :\ Im not a homophobe, so could I just be in denial?

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        • Devyn
          11 years ago

          It's possible to have physical attraction without romantic or emotional attraction. You find both genders aesthetically attractive, but have no desire for a relationship with either. Unfortunately this situation doesn't fit into a neat category like "asexual" or "bisexual". So I don't think you'll manage to find a term that can just describe your sexuality simply.

          I don't claim to have any great experience in such matters but, if I were you, when faced with the question "Are you bisexual?" I would respond "yes, but I'm not looking for a relationship". The fact that you answered "no" doesn't mean that you're in denial, just confused and maybe afraid of your feeling; they certainly seem confusing.

          As for the potential relationship with the guy you mentioned. I would recommend that you just try treating him like a friend, but with the potential for sexual activity. That might work for you. However if you really think that you can never be in a mutual, loving relationship with him, then you should probably tell him that sooner rather than later.

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  • CalebGros
    11 years ago

    I think that you have acceptance issues. You feel in superior to girls who are stereotypically "beautiful" so you are nervous because you want to fit in.

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  • potentiallybipolar
    11 years ago

    I think you've overthought the entire thing.

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  • Homewreckker
    11 years ago

    & If you vote(d) confused, are you confused about the question, or saying I'm confused on what my orientation should be?

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    • q25t
      11 years ago

      I think you're rather confused about what your orientation is.

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    • Thewomanizer
      11 years ago

      I voted that you were asexual because of your desire to not engage in anything sexual with either sex, and I'm not confused about the post you wrote, I reckon it's perfectly fine for someone to understand. I do reckon you should have put other and not the lesbian one, because u know that u like guys.I prob would have chosen that one and commented as I am now, but no worries. You may be deciding to remain single and not do anything intimate but I don't think you are asexual, if you have feelings for guys and girls maybe? then it is obvious to me that u are bi but not permanently asexual if you can see what I mean.

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      • Homewreckker
        11 years ago

        the thing is if you were to ask me what gender id have sex with, it'd be female. no strings attached.

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        • Thewomanizer
          11 years ago

          right, so if you like guys but also girls then you aren't asexual. I think you are confused.

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      • Thewomanizer
        11 years ago

        I mean I would have chosen other and commented lol

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