Is it normal to be aroused by my girlfriend's unusual beliefs?

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The other night, we were talking about the fact that a woman is running for president and my girlfriend said something weird. She said she didn't believe a woman could be president. For those of you whiny, angry feminists out there, I have 2 things to say: First, MY GIRLFRIEND said this comment, not me, so it isn't me being chauvinistic! Since most feminists are man-haters, I wanted stress that fact so you didn't post angry replies to my post blaming me since feminists blame men for everything. Second, I don't want you badmouthing my girlfriend saying she doesn't have a high opinion of herself! Truth be told, she's very smart. She's even going to college. Having said that, I was actually shocked to hear her say that.
She did say a lot of the rights women already have, they should keep. However, in addition to saying a woman shouldn't be president, she said she is happy women have the right to vote, but shouldn't have that right either.
She actually presented very valid reasons against both rights, but since this is a "question" site, I don't want to explain them all as it will make my post too long. And also, even though she is going to college, she said when she's done, she wants to be a housewife and marry me and take my name, and my job dropped when she even said she wanted to "serve" me.
I am not chauvinistic because I didn't say these things, but I got an erection hearing her say them. Does that make me a chauvinist for being aroused to hear a woman talk like that? Why is it so arousing? Is it normal?

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  • johnpartridge
    7 years ago

    I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but your girlfriend is a dumb f*ck.

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  • dytrog
    7 years ago

    There is a long list of female leaders past and present. Most of them do a good job. But I don't want Clinton to be added to the list. To think they are incapable because they are female is chauvinistic. Stupid people think stupid things.

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    • RoseIsabella
      7 years ago

      This!

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    • graygreg
      7 years ago

      But I don't believe that! I said my girlfriend did! I'm just as shocked as you

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    Nothing wrong with having old world views. Also, a woman who is eager to please is a common turn on for guys, so you're normal.

    Personally, I never found the housewife thing appealing due to my grandparents and many old couples I've met. It's like watching a sad black and white movie that starts out great where all the characters are full of love and promise, then it gradually worsens and ends with everyone feeling trapped and unsatisfied.

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    • graygreg
      7 years ago

      Thank you. I don't know why my girlfriend feels that way. It's hot but I am not forcing her.

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      • Tealights
        7 years ago

        I understand.

        However, the pressure is on you now. Though it's nice to have a sexy subservient wife to take care of the house and all your needs, it doesn't change the fact that you'll have to take care of everything financially alone. Unless you get a good job making a comfortable amount of money and with great insurance, it's going to get more expensive as the years progress; from childbirth costing hundreds, to taking care of a baby in the thousands (and more so as they grow), to paying for her needs as a woman (pads, birth control, etc), groceries, and bills. On top of that stress, you'll have to come home and be the good father and husband, or your wife will feel unappreciated/unloved, etc (and that has a whole set of problems of its own). I see the housewife setup tear couples down if they aren't fully aware of the responsibilities, especially the men. So good luck, at least you get to enjoy the beginning part of it.

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        • graygreg
          7 years ago

          All valid points you make, but since she wants that, I don't want to stand in her way. I can learn all those things. As far as the "taking care of her" part, I can do that easily even right now

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    Lmao, your girl is more redpilled than you will ever be. Her views of feminimity might not fit the modern feminist narrative, but it's what most women felt just 50 years ago.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      Redpilled????

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      • Tealights
        7 years ago

        It's a Matrix reference. He's saying that his girlfriend is more aware of how women should be in his own opinion.

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    • graygreg
      7 years ago

      I agree. I can't believe a woman in 2016 would say that. It sounded kind of hot though.

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      • riffraffy
        7 years ago

        Your girl is more feminine than 99% of Western girls. To keep her you'll need to embrace your masculinity. Opposites attract.

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        • graygreg
          7 years ago

          I know. That's hot. I feel like I'm being a chauvinist for liking that. That's why I asked the question.
          In addition to believing a woman shouldn't be president and a woman shouldn't have the right to vote, she also wants to be a housewife someday and hopes I'll be her husband. She actually used the word "obey" which shocked me. She said if she's my wife someday, she'll happily obey me.
          You're right about embracing my masculinity. If she does feel this way, I'll need to really be the man, step up, make all the decisions, and not feel weirded out if I have to occasionally give her a command. I've just never been in a relationship where I don't let the girl make at least a few decisions, but if she wants it that way, so be it.
          One thing I like for the appearance of it though is that ever since I've known her, she's always worn either a dress or a skirt. I now know why she never wears pants. She told me that's too masculine. That's hot. I will definitely like it if she becomes my wife and she always wears pretty clothes.

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  • CreamPuffs
    7 years ago

    Somehow, I seriously doubt this is true. First of all it doesn't make sense for someone to say that nobody from their own gender should be president. Secondly, it seems highly unlikely that anyone would ever be aroused by somebody putting down their own gender. I could see how certain fetishes could cause you to be aroused by her putting down herself, as she did, but being aroused by sexism alone isn't a real thing that actually happens. So I'm calling this a troll post. Just to be sure, I will point out one more thing wrong with it.

    And seriously, a woman making valid points for why women shouldn't even be allowed to vote? A woman who's even going to COLLEGE said these things? I don't buy it.

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    • graygreg
      7 years ago

      First of all, I'm not a troll. Second, college is a financial institution where people learn...not shape their opinions and beliefs. Third, I have a friend who is also a woman that is a "friend" and she said that some women out there DO believe in limited rights for themselves. It's a small percentage but they do exist. If you would have read my post, you would see my girlfriend believes that SOME rights like women in politics and voting for women should not be given to them. She DOES believe in women in the workplace and in respectable jobs, I might add, like women doctors and lawyers. As far as the college thing goes, she is happy women have that right too! And who can say no to a college education? And remember, a person who gets a college degree does not have to get a job in that field but degrees always open up more opportunities for people. My girlfriend is super smart and gets great grades and will pass college with flying colors, but even if she is smart, there is no harm in her wanting to be a housewife.
      As far as the "rights" thing goes, if you would have read my post, you would have read where I didn't want to make my post really long but presenting all of her arguments against women voters and women presidents. This was merely to see if it was normal that I'm aroused by her talking that way! And if my friend that is also a girl says some women do agree, then what you said about a person saying their own gender shouldn't be president is incorrect!
      I don't know that I believe what my girlfriend said, but she had valid points! Stop accusing me of being a troll and trying to pick a fight!

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      • CreamPuffs
        7 years ago

        I never said there was anything wrong with her wanting to be housewife. That's fine. What isn't fine is her saying the rest of us shouldn't have the same equal rights as men. It's her right to say it, but it's also my right to disagree. I can see from your long and detailed response that you aren't a troll. I'm sorry.

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        • graygreg
          7 years ago

          I don't disagree with you. Those are her beliefs, not mine. And she does believe in women in the workplace. Everyone's different. I was just asking if it's normal that I am aroused to hear her say that.

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          • CreamPuffs
            7 years ago

            To answer your final question, no. It doesn't make you chauvinist or misogynistic or anything like that. You can't help what turns you on.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    Awake, awake from your slumber!

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    • graygreg
      7 years ago

      My girlfriend's beliefs...not mine. No slumber. I am awake. I feel like women deserve rights, so does she, but LIMITED rights. I said on my post that I don't feel that way. Obviously you have trouble reading it. Don't tell me to awake from my slumber. Read my post next time so you get what I'm saying.

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    Tell her to "serve you" right now.

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    • graygreg
      7 years ago

      She does! I don't have to tell her. She gets up every morning before class and makes me breakfast. Between her classes, she comes home and cleans our apartment so it's clean when I'm done with my classes. Then she makes me dinner every night. The purpose of my post is to find out if it's wrong that I'm letting her to this and I like that she does.
      SHE doesn't mind. As I've said in my post to other people, I don't believe what she believes. It is cool that she does though.
      I asked her the other day, and she just kissed me and said: "I'm a woman, it's my duty to take care of you."

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      • [Old Memory]
        7 years ago

        Looks like a keeper to me. I wish more women were like that.

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        • graygreg
          7 years ago

          I know. That's what's weird. She told me she likes that I'm a man and that I take charge. She's not completely old fashioned. She believes in women in the workplace, and she herself goes to college. She hopes to be a housewife though...hopefully mine...and she doesn't believe in ALL rights for women. According to her, women shouldn't be president and they shouldn't vote. Pretty sexy to hear her say that.
          When she works around the apartment, I ask her nicely to do things for me like get me drinks and stuff, and she says she likes it more when I'm real "take charge" and I give commands.
          For example, she actually told me that if I ever ask for a soda from the fridge, she wants me to tell her not ask her. So suddenly, saying: "would you mind getting me a soda?" turns into "get me a soda!" It's awesome. I hope you're right about her being a keeper...a girl who cooks, cleans, looks after me, and happily obeys my commands. It's so cool.

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          • [Old Memory]
            7 years ago

            Is she beautiful? Do other guys hit on her? How old are you both?

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            • graygreg
              7 years ago

              She's 18, I'm 19. We're both in college and yes, other guys hit on her. She is very beautiful. She's blonde with green eyes, thin about 5'4" and for being short, she has a sexy figure. Her chest is relatively large for a shorter girl. Put it this way, she wore a cute bikini to a pool last Summer and guys stared at her. She's got freckles and pretty dimples also. Since she is very old-fashioned in her beliefs and therefore conforms to the old time female stereotype of serving her man, she always dresses feminine. In the 11 months we've dated, I've hardly seen her wear pants or jeans. It's always dresses or skirts which is AWESOME!
              I can't believe she's with me. I'm kind of a nerd...sort of built, but I was never an obnoxious sports jock or anything. I love music. I'm in a band and I love it when she asks me to play something on my guitar. I am 6'3". I love that she's shorter than me. Littler girls are hot and attractive.

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  • MR.mr
    7 years ago

    I've met a surprising number of women who don't think a woman should ever be president

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    • graygreg
      7 years ago

      Have they told you reasons why? My girlfriend doesn't believe a woman could be president because she says science has proven that women are more emotional due to higher levels of estrogen and that their emotions may impact major decisions that require emotionless results, such as bombing a country. In today's society, for the most part, even the man president carefully considers the impact of what it would do to the innocent people in that country. I told her we're not just evil emotionless beings that want to bomb everyone for no particular reason. The man president wouldn't do that unless it was the absolute "last" resort and it needed to be done. She said she knows that but the decision for such brutality is still much more difficult for a woman to make.
      I then told her that there aren't any wars going on right now either, and since she believes in women in the workplace, I said for the most part, unless it has to be a quick, decisive "def-con 3" situation like I just mentioned, a woman could handle that. But then she said: "True, but you're banking on HOPE that nothing major will ever happen." In other words, she said a woman could accomplish all the jobs of the presidency, but the world's unpredictable, and there's no way of knowing when she would have to make that major decision.
      What are some of the arguments you heard.

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      • CreamPuffs
        7 years ago

        A woman's estrogen makes us emotional?

        Well a man's testosterone makes him aggressive and rash.

        Not exactly better. In fact, I think that's even worse.

        If your girlfriend is really as educated as you say, I would think she'd already know high-school level facts. So the most likely possiblility is that she's only saying it because she enjoys feeling submissive.

        And yes, it is somewhat normal to feel what you're feeling. Most males love the feeling of being dominant and superior. Usually not in such a broad sense as you, but it does happen.

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        • graygreg
          7 years ago

          My girlfriend is very educated. She has different viewpoints. I can't control them. I'm not saying I agree. She probably liked feeling submissive like you said.

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          • CreamPuffs
            7 years ago

            I know they're your girlfriend's beliefs, not yours. I was just hoping to make a case on the side of women so you would be less likely to turn to the other side and have a negative opinion of us. And I've already explained that wanting to feel dominant as a man is normal. Nothing wrong with it. It's just one of those things that should stay in the bedroom, and out of politics. And I think it's unusual for someone to feel dominant over an entire gender like this.

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  • iMoose
    7 years ago

    I'd be rock hard hearing my girlfriend say that too, cooked meals every day, clothes washed, clean house. Nice little bit of tradition right there. You've made it haha!

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    • graygreg
      7 years ago

      Good. When she said she wants to be a housewife and serve me, that was awesome! She actually used the word OBEY as well. She said when she becomes my wife, she'll obey everything I say. And to hear her say she shouldn't vote because she's a woman and making those decisions are not her business, I got a hard on. It sounded really good to hear a woman say that. I just hope me getting aroused doesn't put me in the perverted "chauvinist" category. That's what worried me.

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  • tittle
    7 years ago

    Well, if I understand, the point isn't that she thinks that stuff, it's that it aroused you. I have to say 'normal' because weird stuff arouses people all the time. I have found certain beliefs other people have arousing, even if I don't agree with them. I've found racism to be arousing, for eg. And I'd never agree with such bigotry.
    So for that alone, I say normal.

    As for the possibility - like, does this make you a chauvinist or a bad person because you're possibly aroused by women being subservient? No, I don't think so. Again, you can't help what arouses you. And the fact that it arouses you doesn't mean you have to intellectually agree with any of it. Or even approve of her opinions (which as the man, it's up to you to approve - /joke).

    So basically tl;dr: Normal because you can intellectually separate what involuntarily arouses you, from what you actually believe. Two separate things.
    Your personal beliefs on this stuff would be a separate discussion, imo.

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