Is it normal to be annoyed by "time" questions?

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My roommate is always wanting to know what time (and the duration) of when we'll be doing something. You could NEVER casually plan something with him. Before we lived together, if I was late coming over to his house by 5-10 minutes I would receive a "where are you?" call. I realize some people like schedules but I am a very abstract thinker and being constricted by time is something I do not like. I'd rather say "I'll be over within 30 minutes" and leave it at that. But this drives him nuts. I'm tired of being asked what time I'll be home.

Is this normal!??! or am I being a jerk.

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Based on 26 votes (21 yes)

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handsignals

9 years ago

That sounds annoying.

Imagine fucking him, "what time do plan on cumming"

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N0tTheSun

9 years ago

It must be your "time" of the month

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howaminotmyself

9 years ago

He probably isn't from the west coast where time is merely a suggestion.

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Nokiot9

9 years ago

Ask him why. Maybe he is just one of those people that needs everything laid out before them. Someone who hates surprises and isn't very spontaneous. Remember. Everyone is different.

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Holzman_67

9 years ago

Time time time see what's become of me..

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thegypsysailor

9 years ago

Sounds like a real odd couple set up. I think you need another room mate as you are not suited to each other. Just out of curiosity though, why is it any of his business when you come or go/where you go, or are you more than room mates?

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- myownopinions
  
  9 years ago
  
  Just a not-so-public PSA, you got a reply from the OP, but, unless you made this post a favorite or randomly decided to go back on it, you probably wouldn't know that you got said reply. (This is also directed to you OP. Remember: comments do come with a reply button (bottom right). People don't know if you replied to them unless they did aforementioned reasons or you directly (and I mean DIRECTLY (i.e. even if you reply to my comment, thegypsysailor still wouldn't know that)) replied to them.)
  
  On topic to the OP's original question: yes it's normal to be annoyed and you might want to tell your roommate not to be such a stickler to a schedule.
  
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  - miskris
    
    9 years ago
    
    Thanks, I was looking at how to "reply" >.<
    
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αвαdσηтнєDєѕтяσуєя

9 years ago

I am exactly the opposite of you. I go absolutely nuts when people don't plan things properly with me. I find it inconsiderate and rude to make plans with somebody but not give them times or dates. If I'm going to take the time out of my schedule to do something with you, you damn well better give me a time so I can bath, put make up on and have my hair done before we go, at the very least.
I have things to do, and those things don't get put on hold because you can't give me something as simple as a time, you know? Try understand from your roomates point of view. He probably has stuff to do, and like me, just wants to plan everything out correctly and not have you show up too early while he's busy doing things still, or too late when he's been waiting for you for longer than he should.

I'll agree that him calling you if you're 5 to 10 minutes late is abit ridiculous, because something as inevitable as traffic could influence whether you arrive 10 minutes late or not, but try to understand that to us people who like to make solid plans, you "free thinkers" are rather inconsiderate of us.

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- miskris
  
  9 years ago
  
  I totally agree with you. I have a friend who can be up to an hour late. But I am actually a punctual person (meaning once I do give a time, I do my best to be there at that time), I just don't like being asked when I'm doing stuff constantly. Here are some examples that may help you see my situation better
  
  He asks what I'm doing today. I say I'm going to go grocery shopping at some point. He asks "what time are you going grocery shopping?" I say I dont know 4ish. Come 4:30 he's like "I thought you were going grocery shoppping" AHH leave me ALONE
  
  I say that my BF is coming over later. He asks what time. Why is it any of your business? go away
  
  In fact, I'm going to go as far to say that HE is being inconsiderate of MY time by constantly asking my schedule just for his own peace of mind because he hates not having a schedule! He needs to be more aware of how he's handling his anxieties
  
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EccentricWeird

9 years ago

Parsley, Sage and Rosemary questions, when posed, are significantly more irksome!
*GUFFAW*

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- miskris
  
  9 years ago
  
  totally googled that and found a ballad ^_^ delightful!
  
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associate

9 years ago

Tell him to live by the rhythms of natural time instead - sunlight; seasons; the ripening of plants; the smell of heather... that kind of stuff.

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iEatZombies_

9 years ago

It's none of his business when you choose to be home. You're roommates, not lovers. Ridiculous. Don't take that shit.

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miskris

9 years ago

thegypsysailor, not sure. Sometimes he asks because I'll say something like "hey let's jam tonight" (we're both musicians) so he'll ask what time I'll be home. other times it's random. I think he isn't comfortable being home for a long time.

Good point, I don't think I'll be renewing the lease with him.

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- (s)aint
  
  9 years ago
  
  I am a bit like your room-mate. If someone wants to plan things with me I'd love to know when they come over.
  
  if I had a room-mate I'd probably require to know when they would be home to avoid me being in the middle of ...private matters.
  
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  - miskris
    
    9 years ago
    
    Whoah...I never...considered that. gross lol
    
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    - (s)aint
      
      9 years ago
      
      I ... yeah. That was the first that came to my mind. He want to make sure that you wont catch him in the middle of putting hamsters up his ass.
      
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- thegypsysailor
  
  9 years ago
  
  Wow, a punctual musician? LOL. 50% of my job as a road manager for groups in the 60's was seeing everybody got on stage on time, and believe me, it wasn't easy. Between the drugs, groupies, liquor and whatever, it seemed like an insurmountable quest, more often than not. Cold showers were my best friend!
  
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miskris

9 years ago

Funny.

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