Is it normal to be angry when someone insults your outfit

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Hey guys, is it normal to be angry when someone insults your outfits (routinely) in front of others? I work in a research division of my university as a student researcher. During the summer school's out and attire is pretty informal, in addition they don't keep the AC going in all areas of the building. Hence, I like to wear tank tops, but to be quite frank I have big boobs. That's not a fact included to be titillating- all ladies with a full C cup or more understand how hard it is to wear a tank top when you're busty. I've got constant cleavage and I have to wear thick bras, so the straps show from under those skinny tank top straps. Every time I go in, a girl who's allegedly my friend always gripes about my shirt and my bra straps. I don't care. My female supervisor doesn't care. No one else cares. But this girl berates me every time. The other day I had a dentists appointment before work, and I went to the dentists in sweats and my college t-shirt. My appointment ran long so I didn't have time to change. I went to work in my lounge clothes and the girl humiliated me saying "I can't believe you even left the house in that". According to her, all of this sartorial assessment is for my own good and she's trying to help, but I think its bullshit. It was somewhat credible at first when she took issue w/ my cleavage and bra straps, but when she felt the need to call attention to my sweats/T-shirt combo in front of the new girl I started to doubt that she ever had my best interest in mind. I got mad, and I haven't spoken to her since. Am I overreacting? Is it normal to feel so offended and angry that you don't want to be friends with the individual anymore?

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Stay away from her, she's toxic. Others will regard you as a fool for putting up with her, so just stay away. You're lucky to have escaped so easily. I hope you're not dressing like a street-walker at work but if you are not looking professional you won't be taken seriously. If your chest is bursting out then just like Cobrakitnu you need to wear a bigger sized shirt to cover yourself up.

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  • chewy
    12 years ago

    people are morons thats why they dont deal with their own problems so they take it out on others.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    Yeah... that wasn't so nice of her. You should tell her that you didn't ask for her opinion, and you don't care to know. Tell her that she hurt your feelings, and that sometimes what you're wearing is strictly about your comfort, not the way you look to please society.

    If she doesn't have anything nice to say, she shouldn't say anything at all. Especially, in public in front of people. If she really wanted to do it in a more polite way, she could've toook you to the side, or waited until you both were alone and asked. And there's ways to do it without sounding like a bitch.

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    • Ldizzy1234
      12 years ago

      took*

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  • Cobrakitnu
    12 years ago

    My teachers have even done the same thing to me in the past. I've always been more developed than the people in my grade. And I couldn't even wear a nice shirt without getting yelled at for "indecent exposure". I've gotten detentions over this!

    So now I just wear t-shirts and sweaters. Even in the summer.

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    Very petty and hateful to embarrass someone in front of another! And in my opinion, as long as the bra strap is any color but white, it just adds to the effect of me looking twice at a girl that is comfortable in appearance and not high maintenance! I often go for a girl that had more on her mind then her attire, but can can be drop dead gorgeous when she needs to be! Good luck with your choices! Find new friends!

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  • Robert42d
    12 years ago

    I agree she's just jealous of you!

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    She's jealous of you and is trying to drag you down. I have a friend who says the most horrible things to me. I take it as a back-handed compliment. If I can make someone feel so insecure and willing to be rude about it, I must have something worth having.

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  • Tisgranum
    12 years ago

    Well, my tits are fine, I don't feel threaten by that part whatsoever. I can assure you however that if I showed to work with a bra showing, somebody would say something.

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  • honeybeee
    12 years ago

    U made me feel sad about my little boobies :(

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    • chewy
      12 years ago

      dont worry about those things everyone is different im personally in my opinion not in to the small ones but hey if you got a great personality then who cares? you could be a great friend! :)

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