Is it normal to be angry at my trqnsgender friend?

A friend of mine came out to me that she is a transgender (male to female) some time ago. At first, I was completely OK with it, but as time has passed and as she is starting behave and dress like a woman, I find myself sometimes getting angry. I love my friend, she's been one of my closest friends for a long time. I really don't think I have a problem with the transition. It's just that sometimes I feel like this woman is killing my male friend. Should I tell her how I feel or stick it out and hope these feelings just die?

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  • dappled

    Your friend isn't the problem; your feelings are. Luckily, your feelings are something you do have some control over.

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  • VikingWolf

    Yes you are normal.
    The problem is that you are having a hard time coping with it. That comes with the fact that you have likely been told about this and do not know how best to handle it.
    There are stages of acceptance; the Kübler-Ross Model is one which springs to mind as it pertains to grief and acceptance towards dying.

    I know this situation is different and there are different steps, but your situation is dealing with something that is difficult and in a way you are grieving your friend.

    Step One is Denial
    Step Two is Anger
    Step Three is Bargaining
    Step Four is Depression
    Step Five is Acceptance.

    And just because you might no longer be angry doesn't mean you will not repeat steps.
    But it is important that you either find a way to wrap your mind around it and learn to deal with it or that you tell your friend that you just cannot handle it.

    If you do the latter, that will be sad. Your friend has confided in you because he/she has sought you out for help in his/her mind dealing with the situation. He/she is also dealing with a lot of issues too.

    Once you do get over being angry about it, tell your friend; your friend obviously told you because he/she wants your help and needs your support.

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  • aduusw

    You should support her... Besides she wants to kill your male friend

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  • randomjelly

    Try to concentrate on something besides yourself. Your friend is going through a fucked up time right now...respect that.

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  • stacii1989

    tbh you're being kind of unfair - she'll be going through a rough time as it is, andd doesnt need her mate being wierd with her

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  • mjj4life

    Stick it out and hope these feeling u are having die down.

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  • @randomjelly: That doesn't answer my question in the slightest. Thank you for not contributing.

    @vulgarman: It's not a question of whether I can handle it. I just don't know if these feelings are normal or not.

    But I got some advice from a friend that's gone through the situation before and he told me it's completely normal, it's just a phase and it passes. This site is garbage, shouldn't have wasted my time with this.

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  • That`s something you`ll have to figure out yourself. If you can`t deal then it`s better to be honest. It`s a test of your friendship.

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  • Transgenders are ugly

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    • SweetSherry

      LOL that's funny cos its true every time I see a tranny I always laugh most of them look like hulk in a dress what a joke

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      • I bet your mom would be a riot.

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