Is it normal to be angry at my daughter???
Long story as short as possible. I had my first child at the age of 17. I never had even a 5 minute break from her until she started school. She started stealing, soiling her pants, lying and having other behavioural problems from the age of 4 years. I never knew (and still dont know what caused her to behave like this, but she has recently been diagnosed with a very low IQ (71), bordering on intellectual disability.She is now 18 years. From the age of 5 through to the age of 7, I sought help and advice from various agencies, all of whom seemed hell bent on blaming me for the way she was behaving. I then took numerous parenting courses, and tried various strategies to deal with it. None of them worked. I eventually called child protective services, and asked that they take her away from me, as I knew I was ready to snap, and didnot want to hurt her. From the age of 7 up until 19th Feb this year, she has been bought up in a very religious home, much to her detriment, I feel. ie: I sad when she was 15 that she should be put on the pill, but they said no, as they didnt want to be seen to be giving her permission to have sex. Of course, she was having sex, and she feels comfortable enough with my partner of 6 years and I to tell us this. She moved back in with us on 19th feb this year, after committing credit card fraud against the family that had bought her up for the last 10 years. They decided they could not handle her anymore. While she was in care, I re-married, and had 3 more children (not to my current partner). When my marriage to him split up, His sister made 2 false allegation to Child protective services under 2 different names as a way of getting back at me for dumping her brother.She has since admitted this. Because my oldest daughter was already in care, this made them think I was an unfit mother, and then I lost my other 3 children. Since she moved back in, at the age of almost 18, I am finding myself blaming her for the loss of my three other children. She has made herself totally at home in the space of 6 weeks, but, as terrible as I feel about it, I basically feel feelings of hate towards her regarding the other 3 kids. I feel she has done my children out of being bought up with their mother (resulting in them being separated into 3 different foster homes in two different countries), and her actions have prevented me from being a mum to the three wonderful children whom I loved and had a great bond with. I realise that when it all happened, she was too young to understand the repercussions, but every time I look at her, I feel angry. I am also scared to spend much time with her, as if she does anything else bad, no doubt it will be blamed onto me.Any advice appreciated