Is it normal to be afraid to trust people?

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I've had trust issues ever since I was 11 when my grandmother died. After that I isolated myself from everyone else and became a nerd. I'm not as antisocial as I used to be, but I'm still horrible at dealing with people. Mainly, I suck at displaying emotion but I can still tell what others are feeling. As a result, I'm never truly myself around my people so I've always had shallow friendships.

I have one friend that I actually trust, but I feel like at some point I'm going to tell him one thing too many and it'll destroy our friendship. I've told him alot of things I've never talked to anyone else about before and he was fine with them. There's alot of other things I'd tell him, but even with what I've told him there's the constant fear that I've accidentally pushed him away and he just hasn't said anything yet. It's kind of pathetic, but it took me 3 weeeks just to tell him I cared about him as a friend.

Am I right in being so cautious to trust people or am I just paranoid?

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    You should always be cautious about trusting people because most of them are out for themselves.

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  • anon77
    12 years ago

    Trust is the most valuable asset a person has, spending it carefully is normal and wise.

    I try to trust people till they prove themselves unworthy of that trust.

    If you read this.. Google "IF" by Kipling

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I dont blame you. i say you cant trust anyone buy yourself.

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  • EPR73
    13 years ago

    Alter your outlook on life. Sit down, paint a wall, watch it dry and re-evaluate your existence on this planet. Humans suck, so your trust issues are completely rational, but realize you're human too so people have equal amount of trust issues with you as you with them. You can either make the best of your remaining entity in this world with the support of others or become a recluse and enjoy life in solitude.

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  • jensapa
    13 years ago

    How can u expect some one to trust u if u don't trust them? U get what u give.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      I do trust him, but when I've been hurt by every other person I've ever trusted it sets a precedent for expected betrayal. I wish I knew how to get rid of that, but I don't.

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  • Sotchi
    13 years ago

    You should be cautious, and if you don't feel comfortable talking about something then don't, but you're also worrying a little too much. He obviously values your friendship and chooses to be there for you and listen to what you have to say.

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