Is it normal to be afraid to meet someone online for this reason?

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Last month I joined some free dating site and met a lot of guys there, but one guy stood out. At first he made me really nervous just talking to him online, but then thinking about him started making me crazy. We moved our conversations to g-mail and have been talking since. He is actually a great guy, from a rich Indian family, has a lot of determination and strength, and has great dreams, one to move to North America. He even took a google maps peek around the city I'm from and said it seemed like a nice place.
One time I said something like "since I will probably never meet you." He then said how can I be so sure and went to saying that when he comes to North America, he would try his best to meet me. Now, I never like to think positive, or that things could actually happen this way (some part of me wants to meet him too) but then I hope I never meet him. Or at least, not soon, because I'm afraid I will fall in love with him. Is it normal to be afraid of meeting him for this reason?

PS: I have a friend with benefits, who I love, but if this guy came I don't know if it would be anytime soon. So my fwb and I would probably end things by the time this guy came to meet me.

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  • Moonbow
    10 years ago

    You'd best be afraid! This guy is no more from a "rich Indian family" than I am. He's looking for a green card! (Or permanent residency card if you're Canadian.) This is a common scam perpetrated primarily by men in India and other countries where computer companies "outsource" their call centers. Here's a link that will help you weed out the scammers:

    http://www.immigrationlasvegas.com/green-card-scams/

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      That's not the type of "afraid of meeting him" I meant... I can spot types like that he actually wants to move to North America so he can struggle. Not exactly where I'm from, maybe the US, he doesn't know yet. I don't know why, but he wants to move here so he can make his own money his own way. I can tell he's not scamming, for sure. And he's definitely not the standard Indian, if that's the way you look at them.

      I don't want to argue about the issue. Point is, this answered nothing for me.

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago

    I was wondering if Hamid37 was going to comment on this.. oh, yep, there he is.

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    • RoseIsabella
      10 years ago

      Meh, that silly little troll is probably from Jersey or something.

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  • Demundo
    10 years ago

    Yes it is normal to be confused about feelings, but it sounds to me that your fwb is more than just that. We have an old saying "better the devil you know", so I would suggest you try to build something with your fwb and keep the other guy at a safe distance. Does he know where you live? Does he have pictures of you? If he is genuine, let him move on his own money, and set himself up but don't rush to the airport to greet him. Once he is setup and if you find there is not much going on with fwb, then maybe reach out to overseas man. The problem with such relationships is that you will only ever hear about the failed ones because the good ones are not newsworthy.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Be careful he's probably just using you. People lie on the internet.

    Just proceed with caution that is all i am saying.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Again, this is not the type of afraid I meant. I meant I'm afraid of falling in love with him if I meet him because I have a friend with benefits I am in love with, not I'm afraid of falling in love with him because he's a fake, he's using me, or he's lying about who he is.

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      • Terence_the_viking
        10 years ago

        I wasn't saying you were i was just warning you that is all.

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      • GoraIntoDesiGals
        10 years ago

        Deep down your subconscious already knows you no longer feel anything for your fwb and want this desi guy.

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  • Hamid37USA
    10 years ago

    Hello. My name Hamid. I to like to come your country, usa, to meat you to. I will like your address and will meat for sex. I am excite you will be i wife and work for I.

    love,
    Hamid
    your welcome

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Fuck the Indian when you get the chance and decide what to do, then.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    10 years ago

    Gora Don't you dare say I don't love my fwb. He has been gone in military training for two months, to be back in 5 days, and I am pulling my hair out in anticipation. I bawled on the floor harder than ever when he left, even with the promise he is coming back. He was going to say goodbye forever once we graduated but he didn't. I want to hold him in my arms and tell him I love him for the first time so much right now, the way I wanted to tell him I loved him before he left. A part of me has been missing for two months and I don't know if I could even go on if he did actually say goodbye forever. I wouldn't have.

    My love goes beyond anything, obsession kicks in, and I always dream for the cheesy happily ever after. Maybe I recognize other great guys out there (and also realize the bad ones *cough cough*) but once I fall in love, there's no falling out. Hence, loving two people at the same time. Hence, why I was afraid.

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