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He left me when I was a kid. I don't know the full story, but sometimes I wonder what it would be like to know him... What we have in common... But I'm afraid of what I'd do if he rejected me again. Some times I feel like a black sheep in my family though because I'm the only child of him.
I am afraid to confront your dad too. I tried once - it was at a bar in Arkansas, and no shit, the bouncer looked like Patrick Swayze from "Roadhouse", so there was no chance of things getting physical, but even so, your dad had a steely-eyed gaze that about made me poop the bar stool. Seriously, he was like that old-timey picture of John Brown the abolitionist where he's holding the Bible and a rifle. Your dad was so drunk the only word he could say was "Twinkies", but even like that he was a menacing motherfucker. It was only when he began to urinate in his Korean War-vintage Marine fatigue pants that I started to relax, figuring he wouldn't be much of a threat, and consume my Zima freely.
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he could turn out to be good , and it was just a really bad financial state he had or fear of responsibility , now that youre grown up he doesnt have it
@dappled, this is the writer of the post. Did you know you've posted something on every single iin page I've put up?
i agree with dappled, a letter might be the best option. if sadly he doesnt want contact remember its his loss and it is a huge loss for him, your young with yr whole life ahead. people over the years will ask about his kids and no matter what he says they will all think the same thing...that he is foolish
Do you have any way of making contact with him? If you send him a letter and give him the choice of whether to meet you, it may lessen the impact if he doesn't go for it.
But I hope you do get to meet him. Understanding where we come from is a big part of understanding ourselves and why we are the way we are. It's worth the risk. Good luck.
Confrontations like these are always scary. But just be careful about how much you pry into why he left. You may not like the answer and will have to deal with it.
I had to go through something similar and he told me the whole story. It has forever scarred me and I won't be able to get over it. Combining it with my bad relationship with my mom has made me a little unstable and I should think about getting therapy.
But hey, I've never fucked a relative, lol.