Is it normal to be afraid that people think i'm a bitch?

I there is fear in yourself, then maybe there is something you are doing that makes them think you are a bitch. No fire, no smoke. But if you are not a bitch, then face your friends with all your real self.

Most girls do. It's about still be bein a lil insecure

FYI I'm a guy so you know where this opinion is coming from.

"I am pretty soft spoken and shy but I am afraid that people think I am just mean."

Unfortunately many people mistake this to mean you're arrogant, unfriendly/uninterested in them and even that you're quietly judging them. So they get hurt and yes you can be thought of as a mean bitch because you are mis-communicating your intentions.

The way you get around that is to smile and joke around with people (but don't make fun of them or others often or at all) and take interest in them.

[Side note: There are many ways to be fun and flirty with people without dogging others. Once you learn that you'll never run out of having friends or dates.]

Ask some questions and listen to them well so they know you're interested. But make sure you chat with them otherwise they'll think you're quietly judging them and you don't like them because you're not conversing with them -you're not making an effort. That creates issues.

You can let them know :

"Just want you guys to know I'm usually a shy quiet person so please don't think I don't like you, or that I'm judging you or I'm mean cause I'm not :)"

People often misunderstand things when someone doesn't communicate.
Remember we all have different backgrounds and experiences.

Check this out :

I'm a guy and when I was a teenager I never knew it but some other guy friends were very scared and intimidated by me. I'm talking about some of my best friends that I've had now for over 15 years. I found out later in life because my guy friends who knew me back then told me when we first met and started to hang out (through other friends) they were really scared of me, like if they pissed me off I was going to beat them up lol.

You see, I used to work out a lot and I wasn't always so happy go lucky with people. Usually only girls I would smile for and flirt with. Made sense to me since I'm not gay. Unless a guy was my really close buddy I usually didn't joke around with him so other friends wouldn't know me that way but keep in mind I wasn't a bad person.

I had also been jumped in fights (I've never started a fight in my life) when in public and messed people up because I had to defend myself and my friends knew I could fight - I took martial arts and used to lift weights, run, etc.

I've been jumped by two, even three guys in public and I jack em without getting too hurt.

Anyway I never knew my own friends feared me until years later we got older and they told me lol. They said "Myname you're the best friend I've got and I really appreciate you in my life but did you know when we first met for years I was totally afraid of you and thought if I said something wrong you'd kick my ass! LOL."

I was like "Whuuuuuuuuut? No way! :)"

They were like, "Yeah we were really afraid of you and it wasn't until later we realized what a great guy you are. In fact you're the only guy we trust."

Since then I've made an effort to be really fun and nice even to guys because I really don't want people being fearful of me if they're good people. And if I have to I can still jack a mother fucker to protect myself or defend my girl, lol ;)

If you don't want people fearing you or thinking you're a mean bitch then be more fun and communicate more.

You're shy for a reason and it's negatively affecting your social life:

Do you have a happy sex life / boyfriend?

It doesn't sound like you do.

Usually people are shy because they lack confidence with others often because they don't have much experience.

Btw, I never really make fun of people even my friends since it's not nice.

Everyone has feelings and I try to respect that, though I do admit I laugh sometimes when a joke is really funny even if it's mean. Then I might say that wasn't nice let's not go there guys...

Here's something to note :

If you're a good person and stick up for what's right and aren't making fun of other people, you will always have an oversupply of friends because even if in the moment they don't get it as you age and continue to be friends they'll always remember how respectful you were and what a great person you were.

Just about all of my friends at one time have pulled me aside from the group and told me,

"Don't tell anyone this (myname) but you're the coolest and best friend I've ever had. I know I can totally trust you with anything and you never put me down or hurt me. I know you always try to help and give me great advice. I appreciate it, thanks so much. "

Guys are usually not that communicative and they often don't like showing their feelings to other guys but they can be when they really want to and they definitely get their feelings hurt more than they show, especially when a girl is goofing on them or rejects them.

HTH.

I'm the m way. Whenever I do not say "hi" to somebody they always think I'm being rude but in reality I'm just shy!

Sometimes I feel the same, like if I poke fun at a friend in a friendly joking way, I will worry that it came off too mean and feel bad about after, sometimes I even think of saying sorry.

:D I'm happy I'm not the only one!