Is it normal to be afraid of your boyfriend?

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My older sister was sexually assaulted a few years back (she's alright). I have a boyfriend and we are starting to get serious.

He started making out with me, one night and then suddenly, I couldn't touch him and I felt so scared and I was really scared of him. He wouldn't do anything to hurt me at all and I trust him completely, I mean, I trust him with my life. After that I can't kiss him or anything. I want to be able to kiss him and everything but when I get close enough for it to happen, I freak out and I get really scared. Sometimes I want to kiss him so bad but I can't because I always freak out. Is it like some subconscious fear of touching and kissing?

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  • bdbdbd
    13 years ago

    This is going on to my sister right now as well. She was verbally abused, so i can only imagine how scary it might be to be sexually abused. This can seriously affect your relationships in the future, and i don't mean just romantic relationships, but any friendship as well. You should definitely talk to someone about this because it's just going to get worse with time. Psychological trauma is the worst thing that can happen to someone. Seek help, and don't take this whole situation lightly girl. Good vives your way!

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    • Ryan7395
      13 years ago

      Nah, I'd say getting your balls chopped off would be worse. (Random, I know.)

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  • Bluberri25
    13 years ago

    I get how you would have a fear after what happened to your sister. But I suggest you talk to a therapist. Also, if you are really close to your boyfriend you should tell him, too. You trust him, right? Don't be Afraid to tell him. He won't take it the wrong way. He should understand.
    Good luck, and I hope you get past it!

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  • combatgal856
    13 years ago

    Hmm, I feel the same way sometimes with my bf, I want to kiss him, then whe it gets down to it I just can't and he is always telling me I'm pushing him away which makes me feel bad because he has done nothing wrong. I have no idea why I feel like this, but a least you have an idea of where it is comming from. Maybe seeing a psychiatrist or something might clear things up.

    Maybe try and make kissing less serious to start with, give him a little kiss then let im give you a little peck, then keep taking turns until the kisses become longer. It helps, but try and see someone about your fears

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  • reginaFalangi
    8 years ago

    My mom recently told me she was molested as a child and it affected me in a similar way.
    I guess we are shocked that someone so close to us has been through such a horrible experience.

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  • Myarmfelloff
    9 years ago

    Yup, mine beats the shit out of me all the time

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  • Ryan7395
    13 years ago

    But on topic, yah talk to a psychologist.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    probably. i have no idea what you're talking about, but its probabaly normal ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

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